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I was talking to my boss about a certain primary candidate and his positions on NAFTA, WTO, the Patriot Act, and civil rights. When I got to the civil rights discussion I asked him what he thinks about gay marriage.
Him: They can already get married.
Me: Nooo -
Him: Yes. They do it all the time.
Me: So you're saying civil unions are "okay"
Him: Yes.
Me: Why not marriage? Why deny them their right to marriage? How is it hurting you, or anyone else by allowing these people the same rights the rest of us enjoy?
Him: They CAN get married. What you are talking about is a contract, like in a business. They can aleady do that WITHOUT getting married, with the same result. We don't have to change the "definition" of marriage. They can have a legal contract to the same end.
Me: Nooo - they CAN'T be married. Not legally married.
Him: Ahh...LEGALLY married. They do not deserve to force a change of the definition of marriage on the rest of us. That is what you are talking about - CHANGING marriage. They should not be allowed to have the government FORCE on the rest of us this CHANGE in marriage - the government has no business sanctioning or enforcing these changes.
Me: ??? What is the BIG DEAL? How is it hurting YOU if 2 people that love one another make a committment?
Him: They can do that NOW - without changing marriage. We should not have to change for THEM. They can have ALL the socialist benefits provided by the government with a contract, without the government sanctioning or enforcing it.
Me: So if I get drunk in Vegas and marry some random Joe from the street in a chapel it is just and fair that I get the benefits of a married person, but a same-sex couple that has been together for 15 years cannot enjoy the same rights?
Him: They CAN get married. They get married all the time.
(you can see this is getting circular)
Me: Not LEGALLY - not recognized, they don't get the same benefits we do as a married couple.
Him: They DO. They can get ALL of the same benefits in a contract, without a legal marriage.
Me: Well, I think this whole arguement is ridiculous. There is no logical reason that gay people should not be allowed to be married the same as we are. If they love one another, and wish to make a committment to one another, it is hurting NO ONE. I just cannot see your point.
Him: So, if a 40 year old wants to marry a 2 year old they should be allowed to? I mean - these 2 human beings want to get married. Who are WE to deny them their rights?
Me: *pulling hair out* That's a BULLSHIT arguement!
Him: No - So you want to deny these 2 human beings there rights?
Me: Bullshit arguement! That's not the same thing!
Him: It IS the same thing. So you are discriminating against these human beings that want to get married. That's age discrimination!
Me: Bullshit!
Him: YOUR argument is a bullshit arguement!
Me: No, it's not! There is a huge difference between 2 consenting adults and a pedophile marrying children.
Him: There is NO difference between that and your arguement. HOW is it different?
Me: If YOU can't tell the difference between a pedophile and a 2 year old or 2 consenting adults that love one another there is no point in continuing this conversation!
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GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! He had me so pissed when I left. I just don't GET what scares people about allowing gay people to get married. It's freaking ridiculous! Granted - I think he's a bit of a homophobe - but he's a "socialist" government hating civil rights libertarian so I thought he'd "Get it" - wrong! He even thinks ammending the constitution to STOP gay marriages is a-freaking-ok.
Someday, I hope to be telling my grandchildren about the ridiculous behavior of people in "the old days" when they tried to keep gay people from getting married - like the stories we hear today about people of different races also being denied that right.
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