why do girls/women still expect boys/men to pay on the date? [View All]

[seabeyond]

two decades ago when i was dating, i would tell a perspective date that i had to pay my share. pay for the dinner, or pay for the movie. i did this for a number of reasons. firstly, and foremost, as a female that always felt that we were just people, making our way in life, each earning a living and paying bills, i had as much a part paying my share as the date. i saw no reason a man should give up his money, and it was never expected of me.

second, i can't take things from people and was never comfortable with the feeling of owing someone.

last, i have heard too many men resenting having to pay for a date. all kinds of crude and vulgar behind womens back.

it was hard for about all the guys. they really did not want to share in the expense. it really didn't make sense to me since i hear so many complain about it. we hear the same old joke, over and over about all women being a prostitute one way or another.

but, that is the way i was, and the only way i would date. it worked, once they got past it. and i was comfortable, not feeling i owed anyone.

i have been married 17 yrs and i am talking with my oldest son about dating. and it dawned on me that today, still, the guy is expected to pay. in all my insistence on us being equal, women with careers making as much money as men, why is it still tradition, still the norm, still expected that the male pays for a date? in todays economy and the expense of a night out, it makes no sense to me that it is only on the mans shoulders.

personally, i don't like it. i don't think much of the woman that expects it. lol. just sayin.