Reply #5: Obviously these parents don't share your values. [View All]

[Berry Cool]

You look upon her as an autonomous human being who should save sex until she is mature enough and ready to experience it with someone who will respect her and honor her and make it a special experience, and be willing to take steps to ensure she doesn't get a disease or get pregnant before she wants to.

Her parents look upon her as a piece of marriage property whose value will be damaged if she has sex before she marries. In their eyes, if she's acting like she can't wait to be sexually active until she's a legal adult, they will marry her off now, to someone who IS a legal adult, rather than risk her having sex with another kid and losing her oh-so-valuable virginity and maybe even getting pregnant. They may well think she's better off having a permanent sexual partner who is a mature adult, legally married to her, than some amateur kid who could screw her and dump her. Doesn't matter what she wants. Doesn't matter that she's too young to marry legally in her state.

I am sure all this makes logical sense to them, but in this country, it's not how we do things.