Reply #214: Uh, I already did answer that question. [View All]

[Exiled in America]

All things being equal, yes, its a great idea essential to healthy relationships to discuss and have open communication about major life decisions that impact more than one person.

Talk to any therapist, sociologist, social worker, LCSW or read any journal on mental health and wellness - hell, just be a basic human being, and you discover that this fact is not in any serious dispute anywhere. You're being up in arms about it is your problem - a silly attempt to make an issue where there is no issue. And there is just a mountain lode of statistical research to support this very basic claim. It isn't any more controversial than saying the sky is blue.

Context matters, and there are certainly times where that kind of open communication isn't desireable or healthy, and no one is questioning that ultimately the choice rests with the woman.

It's just basic fucking social work to realize that when possible, open communication between partners about major life decisions is important.

Yes, there are people who have inappropriate views about it. There are people who think the father is "entitled" to some kind of a "say" in the decision, and that's false. They're are people who act like the woman can't be responsible to make a decision for herself and that's false. But that's not the issue here. The issue here, is you trying to make a "thing" where there is no thing, and you need to get off it.