Reply #23: the irony I see in 'waiting' to have a child [View All]

[crikkett]

is how so many ageing (and yes you're ageing in your mid thirties) couples end up spending tens of thousands of dollars to force the conception of a child who's statistically less healthy, when it could've been so easy and natural, when they could've taken care of the biological imperative when it was time, ie. when the hormones are raging and the body is ripe for it.

I have friends who had their children young and who are doing very well. My own parents are young.

Whatever. My mother bless her heart, who made me the poster child for birth control and chased away any man who got near me for my own good... now faces the fact that she's not going to get any grandchildren out of me. Her sadness reaches through the phone to fill my room.

I really wish that our society didn't so heavily penalize young parents. It costs a lot less to give a young mother tuition and food stamps than it does to incarcerate her malnourished child two decades later. People are way too uptight. The family unit's been broken.