Breast Cancer Diagnosis, advice please!!! [View All]

[reformedrethug]

I really need some advice from the good people here at DU.

I received some devastating news yesterday from my oldest daughter, my former Mother in Law (I say former because we have always gotten along great even tho her daughter and I don't) was diagnosed with from what my daughter said terminal Breast cancer. Apparently this is a fast growing type because earlier this year she had her yearly mammogram and it came back clean but she found a couple of lumps not that long ago the size of golf ball and they are malignant.

My dilema is this, I get my girls a couple of times a year for visitation, they live in Florida and I live in Ohio, and my time with them for the summer is coming up in July. Do I be selfish and bring them up because I want to spend time with them, or do I not bring them up so they can spend as much time as they can with their grandmother. I just do not know what to do here, what if I bring them up and she takes a turn for the worst, how hard is it to change their return leg on their airline tickets, can I get them back in time, am I being selfish because I want to spend time with my daughters, ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I am so torn here.

If I can ask one thing tho, can we keep this non political so I can focus on what is important in this case? Thanks!!