Reply #46: KC my mother in law died a couple weeks ago , from mal-practice.. [View All]

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she had a horrible death...i understand your anger..i understand your pain..

When you love unconditionally ..it is hard to understand how this can be done to our loved ones..

Now is the time for you to get through the funeral and all that goes with sending our loved ones to the other side with the dignity they so deserve...

I understand how hard it is for you...


but right now is the time you need for you..you need to vent, you need to mourn "YOUR WAY"

No one can tell you how to do it...it is a process..that we usually sleep walk through...emothinally and physically.

reach out all you can...but it is imperative to keep talking..talk to your friends, talk to family..talk to anyone and every one you want to and can talk to...

hold nothing back..that is the healthiest way to mourn..

and do look for a sign...

My mother in law was American Indian..her tribe's sign was the Bald Eagle...the memorial card we had chosen was a deer and a bald eagle....most would have considered it a man's card..but we chose it because it was representative to my mother in laws indian heritage that she loved so dearly..and it represented her Indian tribe...

My mother in law wanted creamation so she could have her ashes spread in the No. Calif Marble mountains..of which she loved so dearly , just above the reservation she grew up at..

The day of her memorial and reception we had..at a country club..as she was an avid golfer..something incredible happened..

The country club over looked the Sacramento River..in Redding Calif..

As my husband looked out the massive windows..over the river..a deer came up under the reception room...and next to the deer landed a bald eagle...

My husband was looking out the window..and he was so taken aback...
then the eagle flew up right to the windows..full wing span..a thing of beauty..and everyone saw it..it flew back and forth in front of the window for a couple minutes...then it landed right in front of the windows..for a moment..then it took off ..it was magestic..such beauty..a perfect bald eagle..in color and in presence..and it flew one last time in front of the window..and flew away........


My husband was mezmerized as were his brothers...there were around 500 people at my mother in laws memorial reception....and all saw it..

My husband was crying..but he turned with a smile and tears in his eyes..and said..i now know..mom is ok...that was her signal..that was her sign to us..to live on..to go on...

KC..watch for a sign..when you see it ..it will help you...but you must watch for it..

I wish i could help you more...

My husband is also angry..and i helped him contact attorneys...but i told him..we have time..just get through this time as best you can..

...and understand ..part of mourning is anger..it is ok to be angry..there is no emotion that is not a good emotion for you to feel..just don't hold things inside..

your healing depends on feeling your emotions..,

Bless you dear..this is the hardest time of your life.but you will get through it..
not easily..and it is a process...

You can not love one so dearly and not hurt like hell when they are taken from you.

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