Reply #106: I'm going to go WAY out on a limb here and say... [View All]

[Sparkly]

... that I don't think she'd have been 'interested' in you.

She wouldn't have made advances toward you.

I think in all cases that don't involve certain dynamics or physical force, the path of least resistance is the path of easiest conquest. Debra LaFave could have had virtually any man she wanted, but she wanted to play out a mania-enabled fantasy. She wasn't going to seduce a boy who seemed disinterested; she wanted that certain boy (who'd seem "dominant" -- my guess from the interview).

I think every such thing is different, and I think in general what men seek in girls is different from what women like her seek boys. (Not so much about aggressive desire; more about vulnerability.)

I think if you'd been in her class, she'd have recognized your feelings and conflicts, etc. -- you wouldn't have acted as those boys did. Whether that's about them being more "easy prey" or them being more "happy playmates" depends on your frame of reference, I suppose. (In my experience, there are always such "happy playmates," frankly!)