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[WildClarySage]

eliminating gender as a concept of identification is the wrong step. The answer is to embrace gender. Celebrate it. Celebrate it's diversity and fluidity and wonderfulness. It's like, to me when someone says they are 'color blind'. I hate that term. It means that part of what makes you a unique and special person must be ignored so that you will not be treated differently. Even if differently=celebrated for your uniqueness. I think society is better valuing and enjoying the differences, without using value judgements or coercing gender roles and values on others. I'm a girl. I like girly things, and I like being a girl. I don't want to be anything else; certainly not locked into a role that proscribes what I can and can't do. I want be girly and cute one day wearing a dress and cute shoes, and be able to wear jeans and my hubby's oxford collar shirt the next. I don't mind being judged as a girl. I mind being valued differently because I am one. I think we can do better socially.