Is eliminating/minimizing gender the key to ending gender discrimination? [View All]

[Nikia]

I recently read Paradoxes of Gender by Judith Lorber. She asserts that the very social insistute of gender causes gender discrimination. She states that gender discrimination starts from the moment people know the sex of a baby and that gender differences are a societal construct. In order to end gender gender discrimination, we must stop differentiating people by gender and attributing certain non phyiscal,sex based traits to men and women. She states that binanry thinking tends to place men in the privledged, good category and women in the lesser, bad category. Women's work has always and will always be paid less and given less prestigue as long as it is considered women's work and men's work has always and will always be paid more as long as it is considered men's work, for example.
My ideals of feminism tend towards encouraging people to be who they are rather than their gender for both men and women. I disagree with feminists who I met in college, who suggested that I should eliminate all "masculinity" from my psyche and promote "feminiminity" in myself, others, and society. I think that I treat people as individuals rather than a gender. I am not sure that I would go quite as far as she suggests though. I see her points, but perhaps I like being a woman and attatched to the concept of gender. I have seen various minorities suggest similiar things with race and ethnicity, but likewise many people want to be black or Latino/a too.
Her ideals are too radical for society to accept anytime soon, but is she right?