Reply #12: I advise independent testing, so you go in with backing of your own [View All]

[Sabriel]

We had our daughter tested independently and got quite different results than the classroom teacher, for many of the same reasons you list above.

Once you know her abilities/strengths/needs through independent evaluation, you might have some different things to say to administration.

Keep her out of special ed any any cost. We resisted the push to label (mostly because we're both educators), and we've never regretted it.

I agree with the wise person upthread who advised lots 'o love, respect, reinforcement, and discussion. Your daughter shouldn't be made to feel shitty just because of one aspect of what can be a dehumanizing, alienating system.