Ugh, and I was really looking forward to Thanksgiving. I need advice DU. [View All]

[grace0418]

After last year when my m-i-l was gravely ill with cancer (she's since made a full recovery), I was really looking forward to Thanksgiving with my husband's family while everyone is healthy, and NOT eating hospital food. I especially enjoy my husband's sister and her husband, we always have a great time. In fact, this year we are switching things up and traveling to their house for the weekend. They moved out of state and usually come back home for all the holidays.

Well, we just found out that they are on the verge of divorce, are not speaking and are not even sleeping in the same bedroom. They still want us to come down because we are bringing our two nieces (my husband's brother and his wife have to work and can't make it) to visit their cousins. I don't know how aware they'll be (they're all between the ages of 10-14), but it sounds like the adult conversation at least is going to be filled with tears, or awkward silences, or a combination of the two. I'm so sad for everyone involved, as there are no bad guys in this. But I really, really, reeeeaaaalllly don't want to spend the weekend stuck in the vortex of a failing marriage.

What do you all think? Should we suck it up and bring the girls down and spend the weekend in hiding? Or should we suddenly both get the flu and unable to drive down? I know the girls will be disappointed, but I highly doubt it will be the fun weekend they think it's going to be anyway.