Reply #18: Archae [View All]

[Terran]

It's a little hard to tell from that tiny picture of you, but you're not a bad looking man at all (this coming from a gay guy, if that means anything). I think possibly it's the depression, more than anything, that's preventing you from meeting someone. I have a couple of good on-line friends who are clinically depressed, and they find it inescapable to an extent, yet they still have full active lives; one has been partnered happily for 12 years, and he isn't much to look at, believe me, although his partner is. Intelligence, personality, integrity and humor will win out with the people who value things like that over looks, and of course that's the only kind of person worth being with long-term.

I would take a lot of the advice you've gotten here: try to address the depression medically, if you can. If it's clinical depression, it can be treated. And simply getting outside more often, and getting involved, is a great way to meet people. If you can become more confident about yourself, people will see you as more attractive, regardless of your physical appearance. You're political--why not join a political group in your town?

And BTW, 30 pounds overweight is nothing to me...I love big men! And so do many women.

Dirk