Reply #18: Figure out what you want and do it. [View All]

[SarahB]

I put off what I wanted for my ex for years only to have him relapse with drugs, alcohol and the massive debt it caused us (after I had my third child and 8 pretty good years together). Then when everything was better, ooops, came baby #4 (and another relapse). A few years later, I picked up the pieces, made sacrifices, and while things were certainly not smooth or perfect, I realized my goals and have a damned happy life now.

Like I said, figure out what you want, take care of your kids, and do it. If you're going to be happy down this path in 40 years, keep going. If not, figure out what the Hell you can do to make it better.