Reply #6: Something simliar happened to my sister [View All]

[Ravenseye]

While I had far more days of suspension all throughout highschool, none of them were for booze. She got caught once with a group of other kids in similiar circumstances as your daughter, and she got 5 days in school suspension. So sounds about the same as what happened to her 16 years ago...

As far as appropriate...What would the punishment be trying to teach your daughter to do? What was her bad decision? That she tried alchohol? I don't care how good a kid she is, or your son, they're going to still drink. I don't know what an additional punishment would do. I might sit down with both of them, separately, and talk about what she did wrong, why the punishment is just, and what she could have done differently. That's how I'd play it. Kids that age get so defensive, that just saying 'you were wrong' doesn't usually work. It might be more constructive to say "Do you think you did anything wrong, and if so what?" and lead the conversation. What kind of bad things can happen with drinking and driving, underage drinking, breaking the law, etc. What she could have done differently without becoming a social outcast, etc