Reply #11: Guys tend to be more literal in that way [View All]

[Ravenseye]

Someone asks a guy what he did he's far more likely to give a rundown of his day like that, because it's the answer to the question he was asked. Most guys probably don't even wonder WHY you asked the question. If you're valid to ask the question (friend/wife/relative/etc) he'll answer it with probably not even wondering why. Most of the time when he says "nuthin" in response....he probably really didn't do anything besides sit around, watch TV, etc.

It's partly because most of us are emotionally hobbled by women, from birth, to do four things.

1) Carry heavy items.
2) Open stuck containers.
3) Fix broken stuff.
4) Report.

So keep that in mind. Anytime you interact with a guy he's probably trying to figure out which of those four you're looking for him to do. If you ask him to do something specifically within those four with no questions, you'll get it nearly automatically...

"Carry that upstairs", "Open this jar of peanut butter", "Fix the floorboard", "What did you do today?" are all easy for him to answer and he'll probably do it automatically. The problems come when he's not sure which one of those four you're looking for, and often times you want something completely off that list, which most men find difficult (like 'just listening', 'leaving you alone for 5 minutes', 'stop asking what of those four you can do', etc)