Reply #6: It sounds like you are being too hard on yourself. [View All]

[idgiehkt]

I once heard that pain is like when you throw a stone in the water and you watch the ripples spread out and they get further and further apart the further they are from the point of origin but they are still there, just with decreasing frequency as time goes on.

Some times I think I will never be over my ex, and it's been over five years with her. I think it's taken so long partly because I took time off from relationships in general for a long time, trying to get my head straight. It's just better to remember it's one of the ripples in the water when the pain comes and just don't fight it but know that it will pass...you just kind of have to breathe through it. Beating yourself up over having pain about something in addition to feeling the pain you are already having seems like cruel and unusual punishment to me, though.