Reply #12: It happens [View All]

[thefool_wa]

When I lived in DC my wife and I were looking for a restaurant on 17th (about 4 blocks from the White House, Clinton Era) which is not only the best strip of bars, clubs, and restaurants in the whole district, but also the epicenter of the gay community (I was blown away when I first went there to eat, I thought Seattle was the alternative lifestyle capitol of the US, boy was I wrong)

Not all the bars/clubs are gay there, its about an even split and there is no telling difference on the building exteriors (at least not that I knew of). Well, I had to use the phone so we popped into the bar we were in front of and it turned out to be a gay bar.

I wasn't really hit on, but did draw a few looks as I crossed the bar to use the phone. However, I did not draw nearly as many looks as my wife. Everyone we passed was looking at her like she had an extra arm or something.

In this case, I might have been a little irked if I had been hit on, but only because I was the only guy in the bar who showed up with a girl and I would have taken it as confrontational and rude. Otherwise, gay bar or straight bar, if you get hit on and aren't interested it's no different if the person making the advance is of the same or opposite sex, just let them know you aren't interested.

It's always good to be polite. And, if you don't want to get hit on in a gay bar, don't go to the gay bar :)