Reply #62: wow. [View All]

[idgiehkt]

you kind of lost me there with the penis envy.

and I was leaning in your direction. bummer.

two things she said really struck a nerve with me:
1) "any woman who refuses to look around her and see the reality -- which is that women don't get the same opportunities as men -- hint, look at who the bosses, senators, and ceo's are -- then that woman may be very pleasant but she is stupid, is stupid what you are looking for in a life partner?"
that smarts. For a long time I looked down on women I knew that made certain choices, but now just about every damn one of them is in whole lot better position financially than I am at this stage or probably every will be if the truth be told, yet at the time when I was judging them I actually believed I was smarter than them. Apparently not. Looking back on it now it seems they were alot more pragmatic, shrewd and realistic than me, and their positions in life relative to mine speak to that.

2) "would you be willing to sleep w. some ugly old creep to get/keep a job? it's a choice you never even have to worry about! i'm sure the "flirtatious" women are doing what they have to do to survive, but it is certainly not anything that a sane person would envy..."
I've seen enough of this happen in my twenty years of working to know it's a reality, even though I wouldn't say that all women do it out of desperation. In this case it seems to be intra-gender competition in alot of cases, and where it exists it's rare that in the battle of brains vs. vagina that brains actually win, when you are talking about two females competing. At least not in my experience.

You both have such valid points that it really stinks it's degenerated into the two of you having to rip each other apart.