Anyone else have trouble communicating with people? [View All]

[alarimer]

Do they think you are rude just because you can't think of things to say? Does it ruin potential relationships?

I swear I am no good at the whole interpersonal communication thing. I can't make small talk very welll; I can't flirt. It is more than just shyness, although that has always been part of it but I have no real problem getting up in front of groups as long as I am well prepared and know what I am talking about. I can't just wing it though.

I just can't seem to think of things to say and nobody understands this. No one. They think I am rude or being standoffish and I am not doing it on purpose. Well sometimes I really don't like them, in which case I don't really care. Sometimes I feel like an alien from another planet.

It is probably one of the main reasons I have not had a relationship last more than a few months. Most people give up on me too soon. It has gotten to the point where I am so anxious when I meet someone new that I just cannot relax and have a good time. I am so worried that I am going to ruin it before anything even happens. I really try hard to talk to them but apparently it isn't good enough.