Reply #17: I don't think it's selfish at all [View All]

[LeftishBrit]

It's the couple's wedding as others have said; and I doubt even that everyone in their families wants a big wedding that much.

As I sometimes say with regard to the scale with which people do or don't choose to celebrate Christmas and other holidays - I think there are two kinds of people: those who like big parties and occasions, and those who feel uncomfortable with them. People who love big parties sometimes find it hard to understand why other people wouldn't. But people shouldn't feel required to turn their own wedding into a big party/ formal occasion just because others may enjoy it - and especially if this involves a lot of personal expense for them. Big celebrations are not a duty, IMO.