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No Vested Interest

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31. Do not take his inattention personally. Most likely he cannot help his present condition.
Sun Aug 9, 2020, 10:02 PM
Aug 2020

My spouse, at a much younger age, became completely listless and disinterested in everything for periods of several months, then would almost literally rebound and we would then take off for trips for awhile, then the disinterest in life would set in again for months.

Everyone, including physicians, thought it was depression, and he took meds and saw a psychiatrist for several years; even had an electroshock session.

Long story short, he was eventually diagnosed with a vascular/brain disease called amyloidal angiopathy, for which there is no cure, and after many years in long-term care, died of the condition.
All very sad, as he was a good man.

Your husband is an aging human being, likely with conditions beyond his control.
Do what you can for yourself and your own condition, and try to remove judgement from his inaction and sleeping.

Do old people tend to sleep a lot? [View all] CountAllVotes Aug 2020 OP
Many medications Ohiogal Aug 2020 #1
He is not taking any medications much CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #3
Not in my experience SheltieLover Aug 2020 #2
Thanks, I'll let you know! CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #4
Sounds like could be depression SheltieLover Aug 2020 #6
He has had a lot of loss lately CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #11
That could be it! SheltieLover Aug 2020 #16
If he snores that much, it could impact quality of sleep. Hoyt Aug 2020 #5
The snoring is loud CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #8
Sleep apnea? SheltieLover Aug 2020 #18
Glad you are going to the doctor Kitchari Aug 2020 #7
It is very difficult for me CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #10
Oh, my Kitchari Aug 2020 #12
Snoring can be a sign of sleep apnea DBoon Aug 2020 #9
They may nap a bit more during the day, but unless they are on certain meds, that is not normal. hlthe2b Aug 2020 #13
This same doctor did a B.S. ZOOM appt. as a "Well Person Physical" in June CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #15
As others have commented, you truly have to take care of yourself first... hlthe2b Aug 2020 #19
I see a nurse practitioner for my own care CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #20
Maybe he's bored. LakeArenal Aug 2020 #14
He can only see out of one eye and he is about 60% deaf CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #17
Sounds like my dad. LakeArenal Aug 2020 #21
I am sleeping more in my old age Chainfire Aug 2020 #22
More satisfying than sleep CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #29
I would be concerned that his problem is clinical depression Chainfire Aug 2020 #30
Do not take his inattention personally. Most likely he cannot help his present condition. No Vested Interest Aug 2020 #31
Can he go for walks? Talk to doctor about a CPAP machine...he may need a lot of sleep Karadeniz Aug 2020 #23
My husband is 85 and while he is staying in bed longer MLAA Aug 2020 #24
Likely that sleep apnea is at least part of the problem. No Vested Interest Aug 2020 #25
A few questions for you... Trueblue Texan Aug 2020 #26
I don't know CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #27
Update: CountAllVotes Aug 2020 #28
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