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Elder-caregivers

No Vested Interest

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8. Please consider your husband, obviously a good guy, and do what is best for him and for you,

Reply to samnsara (Original post)

Sat Feb 10, 2018, 08:08 PM

Feb 2018

so that you will not have regrets should anything go wrong for him while he assists your parents so long and so often.
Husband is your first priority.
Things are going to go bad for your parents inevitably, likely sooner rather than later.
It's not right that hubby's in-laws are determining the direction of these years that are so valuable to him.

Hope all went well when you brought them to see the house.
Probably your Dad nixed it. For your sake, I hope not, but, from what you describe, I believe he did.

Best wishes in your endeavors.

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how to deal with a defiant elderly parent... [View all] samnsara Feb 2018 OP

My guess is your dad doesn't like feeling Phoenix61 Feb 2018 #1

they are 90 miles from me and 45 from my other sis. NOW my mom may samnsara Mar 2018 #9

I went through something like this when both my parents were in their late 80's. enough Feb 2018 #2

This is a tough situation. It makes me glad my mom lost her house and HAD to move rainin Feb 2018 #3

Had to do it to my mother-in-law packman Feb 2018 #4

I had to do that with my mom. KatyaR Feb 2018 #5

thank you.. I sure hope so samnsara Mar 2018 #10

I keep on hearing similar stories like all of those in this thread. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2018 #6

Sounds like they might be better in assisted living f Freddie Feb 2018 #7

im thinking a health crisis will have to happen...which may be sooner than later... samnsara Mar 2018 #11

Please consider your husband, obviously a good guy, and do what is best for him and for you, No Vested Interest Feb 2018 #8