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In reply to the discussion: I did not mind all the sacrifices but stealing my joy as a mother is beyond cruel [View all]Tink41
(537 posts)Came across this while pondering my own issues regarding a very grown 30 yr old child entering a new phase of their life.
Anyway, I was where you are about 12 yrs ago. My parent was also in ICU fighting for their life, I honestly didn't think at that time that "we" would make it. The situation to me was bad, really bad. Although not as bad as I've seen others. Communication had broken down, child was hanging out w street urchins etc.. It took everything I had to do the right things and just be a steady guide like I always was. The bad behavior came to a screeching halt after one particularly drunk episode. The child had an realization that deceased grandparent could "see" all the terrible behavior now and that was that. Who was I to tell my child any different? If that's what it took OK!! Your child will come back to you, somehow, someway. Just keep being steady. Here's hoping you have finally passed thru this stage.