Ancestry/Genealogy

CountAllVotes

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14. You know ...

Mon Sep 11, 2017, 12:32 PM

Sep 2017

Last edited Mon Sep 11, 2017, 01:11 PM - Edit history (1)

You are so very right!

I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I've been at this for 20+ years now so of course I have a lot of info.!

I spent several hrs. collecting info. off of ancestry.com for another distant cousin that is elderly, printed it all out and mailed it to her at my expense of course just the other day. Her excuse is she has no access (she doesn't want to PAY to access the Irish Parish Records that are on ancestry.com now). Uh huh ... *sigh*

This is costing me a lot of $ just for printing and mailing stuff to all of these people that are popping up.

I don't mind doing it for my BIL that is in a wheelchair going crazy because of it (gets his MIND OFF OF IT is my hope for him). As for the rest of them (sans a 1st cousin in Texas I found), I have nothing in common with any of these people, esp. considering the fact that my mother was adopted in 1926 (or was it really 1928?).

Nail on head!

Thank you ... I'm thinking I'm about done being the good samaritan! It gets expensive!

Never a nickel sent my way btw. Nope.

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Not sure how to reply [View all] CountAllVotes Sep 2017 OP

Just tell her! cilla4progress Sep 2017 #1

I agree drmeow Sep 2017 #3

I mentioned it to her CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #6

I just wonder why she's insisting on coming Warpy Sep 2017 #28

I agree: just tell her. Besides, the tone fierywoman Sep 2017 #2

Especially since it's her ex's family... More_Cowbell Sep 2017 #4

She has a child by her ex CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #9

Ah, thanks for more information More_Cowbell Sep 2017 #33

Your are right CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #35

Your first impression is usually the right one. sandensea Sep 2017 #5

Tell her your parole officer sharp_stick Sep 2017 #7

LOL! (nt) Sylvere Oct 2017 #38

At some point you just have to be cilla4progress Sep 2017 #8

You know ... CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #14

Yes CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #19

She's researching her ex's family? cyclonefence Sep 2017 #10

Actually that is true CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #15

Well, then, to hell with her! cyclonefence Sep 2017 #29

Just to be fair, she is researching her child's father's family as well... Thor_MN Sep 2017 #32

Not going to print and mail hard copies. CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #36

She's an 'X', of a 'distant' cousin... WePurrsevere Sep 2017 #11

I wouldn't trust anyone I didn't know to come to my home.. LakeArenal Sep 2017 #12

It was nice for awhile until ... CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #18

That's so nice of you More_Cowbell Sep 2017 #34

On letting unknown people come to your home dragonlady Sep 2017 #20

This woman sound pushy. Croney Sep 2017 #13

Tell her no! CozyMystery Sep 2017 #16

Right! Don't beat around the bush! CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #17

Well, I have an ex shanti Nov 2017 #39

I've had many requests from my Ancestry research GentryDixon Sep 2017 #21

Interesting CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #22

You missed my point. GentryDixon Sep 2017 #24

Thanks for the clarification CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #25

I cancelled mine a few years ago. GentryDixon Sep 2017 #31

Just say NO, no excuses, no explanations needed. . Go with your gut instinct. RestoreAmerica2020 Sep 2017 #23

Write to her vlyons Sep 2017 #26

say no, block if there is further contact from her. irisblue Sep 2017 #27

My vote is No!!! blue cat Sep 2017 #30

Update CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #37