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redqueen

(115,103 posts)

4. That's what I was going to say.

Reply to Gormy Cuss (Reply #3)

Wed Jan 11, 2012, 01:57 PM

Jan 2012

In a true partnership / relationship, these things aren't payment but just things you do for someone you love and care for.

It's only when people are using each other that these things come into play. (And I would emphasize the word 'use'. Like a tool. A thing.)

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Love Languages, Feminists in Romantic Relationships & Prostitution [View all] JustAnotherGen Jan 2012 OP

it is interesting how all this is manifesting and the number of women allowing themselves to be seabeyond Jan 2012 #1

I agree JustAnotherGen Jan 2012 #2

it is just another saying we have given to men to chuckle at, to feel superior, to be dominant seabeyond Jan 2012 #5

Oooh I agree JustAnotherGen Jan 2012 #6

VS use to be a company about empowering women their sexuality. i use to buy from them. it was fun. seabeyond Jan 2012 #7

We see relationships based on altruism. redqueen Jan 2012 #12

You are correct, as usual, Seabie....I believe that language is powerful whathehell Jan 2012 #22

IMHO the heart of the matter is the power dynamic. Gormy Cuss Jan 2012 #3

That's what I was going to say. redqueen Jan 2012 #4

"A tool. A thing." Gormy Cuss Jan 2012 #8

So true JustAnotherGen Jan 2012 #9

Exactly. redqueen Jan 2012 #10

I didn't know that Norway and Denmark had taken that step...It's wonderful!..n/t whathehell Jan 2012 #23

and how to get women to stop playing their role? iverglas Jan 2012 #14

Here's where I bring a different perspective JustAnotherGen Jan 2012 #17

me too iverglas Jan 2012 #11

Cooperating vs. using (the way I see it) redqueen Jan 2012 #13

heh heh iverglas Jan 2012 #15

you didn't give us a link :( iverglas Jan 2012 #16

That's a good start JustAnotherGen Jan 2012 #18

but I don't want to have to pick my way carefully iverglas Jan 2012 #21

When I was in corporate, I worked with a really wonderful family man. CrispyQ Jan 2012 #19

Well, I am the breadwinner ismnotwasm Jan 2012 #20