Advice wanted for great relationship... gone...

[Earth-shine]

5. It's possible that other events in her life have caused this change.

There's this book called The Four Agreements, which for some people, has changed their lives.

The first agreement is "Don't take it personally."

It means that when people get weird on you, it probably has nothing to do with you.

Stop looking for "signs." At best, they have meaning only at the time. Instead, try to acquire a 30,000 ft view.

Here's a possible scenario ... maybe she met some other guy and can't face you squarely about it, because she knows she led you to like her.

People often behave badly in one way to save face about something else.

It's very easy for a 35-year-old to act like a 15-year-old with passive-aggressive tantrums. (I was 35 once.)

She probably did like you with some passion, but it was short-lived. Nothing you did or didn't do caused that to happen.

>> My feeling - possibly anchored in delusion - is that she WAS and IS upset that I didn't nut up and take a romantic chance

I don't think so. That's making it about you. Her behavior is about her. She's acting like a teenager with conflicting interests.

I'm a guy your age. I've been there. But, I don't have these problems anymore. I married a nice older woman, and we've been quite happy these past 11 years.

Consider dating older. We know many lovely, single women in their 60s and 70s, and so many are lonely.

Good luck!