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raven mad

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24. Get to an elder-care advocate and get an attorney.

Reply to cpamomfromtexas (Original post)

Sat May 26, 2018, 05:01 AM

May 2018

We had to do this with my dad-in-love; his Alzheimer's would allow for nothing less. THE most wonderful guy I've ever met, and seriously had no brain cells left in year 9 through 10.

Keep recording everything. We were lucky; his will was in order and all bequests made including a video in the attorney's office a few years before.

If it's legally your money, almost any elder-care advocate (like the folks do in hospice care) can give you a referral. Hold your head up; there's a solution.

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Elder parents committing fraud and threatening, anyone been through this? [View all] cpamomfromtexas May 2018 OP

any chance dementia might be setting in? dhol82 May 2018 #1

He was always this way. I think he was always a narcissist cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #12

I would divorce myself from the situation and leave it to the "bad ass" attorney., AJT May 2018 #2

Best friends growing up, 1st in his law school class, trust him with my life. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #3

Good. We're with you. elleng May 2018 #4

Thank you, I feel so on edge and alone. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #5

I'm sure you do feel alone, elleng May 2018 #6

Then trust him to do what is best and allow for you to keep an emotionally safe distance. AJT May 2018 #7

Yes, he's a pro cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #8

More than that, he's a trusted friend. AJT May 2018 #9

Agreeing with AJT. DON'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THIS DECISION. no_hypocrisy May 2018 #10

I had gotten there with therapy but his recent cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #13

Dear cpamomfromtexas, no_hypocrisy May 2018 #16

Thank you! cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #17

Its an amazing website. I ran across it doing my homework. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #20

When the elderly parents go around the bend, it's hard to believe how deeply it affects enough May 2018 #11

Yes and thank you. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #14

Let your badass attorney handle it and keep as much distance as you can. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2018 #15

You are reliving your childhood trauma. WhiteTara May 2018 #18

Working hard to make it stop. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #19

I truly understand. My parents are both dead WhiteTara May 2018 #21

Glad you could reconcile. I am not holding my breath cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #22

I came out angry too WhiteTara May 2018 #25

I don't have a solution to your heartbreaking dilemma, but I can recommend ACOA Rhiannon12866 May 2018 #23

Thank you. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #29

Get to an elder-care advocate and get an attorney. raven mad May 2018 #24

Thank you. I will look into that. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #27

I'm sorry Cary May 2018 #26

I tried to do just that two years ago but his actions cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #28

So.... Cary May 2018 #30

Here is an OP from today that answers this quesion WhiteTara May 2018 #31

Very informative. Thank you. I am not alone. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #34

Both hubs and I had to "divorce" our parents. Duppers May 2018 #32

Nice to know I am not the only one. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #35

There is a basic truth about making hard decisions lunatica May 2018 #33

Excellent advice. Thank you. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #36