She states the key point right up front at the 50 second mark. This is supported by scientific studies that I've read about many years before. (Some links below)
Forgiveness has nothing to do with person being forgiven! They don't even have to know. It has to be sincere.
It's about release. You can still prosecute someone in a court of law and seek the maximum penalty, if that would serve justice and deter, even after forgiving someone.
It's not about forgetting.
You don't have to pay for therapy to do forgiveness. It actually reduces the need for therapy.
Fluid Relativity just oozes here
He did me wrong, I forgive, you won't, I'm better without you, you're a snail and a creep, I needed to move on ... where does it end? Therapy as drama.
It's a world without rules and amorphous social norms and mores now ... sadly ... only solution is communication up front that explores, uncovers, and protects ... as a society we're not having that conversation yet ... I don't think it's a message that resonates when consumers are expected to assume the submissive position for capitalists and their producers. Tough to be sub at the department store while dominant at the bar.
It's not about relativity.
It is not about drama.
Forgiveness is about less ego, not more.
It's not about lack of rules, duh. You can sue a person to get your money back even after you forgive them.
It has nothing, NOTHING, to do with submissiveness. Duh. Warriors who forgive are stronger warriors who can fight harder and more focused. An angry warrior is a defeated warrior. A person who forgives and who needs to fight a battle has a lighter load and is more agile because they have thrown away their burden.
http://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/01/ce-corner.aspx
Forgiveness can improve mental and physical health
Research shows how to get there
One common but mistaken belief is that forgiveness means letting the person who hurt you off the hook. Yet forgiveness is not the same as justice, nor does it require reconciliation, Worthington explains. A former victim of abuse shouldn't reconcile with an abuser who remains potentially dangerous, for example. But the victim can still come to a place of empathy and understanding. "Whether I forgive or don't forgive isn't going to affect whether justice is done," Worthington says. "Forgiveness happens inside my skin."
... Research has shown that forgiveness is linked to mental health outcomes such as reduced anxiety, depression and major psychiatric disorders, as well as with fewer physical health symptoms and lower mortality rates. In fact, researchers have amassed enough evidence of the benefits of forgiveness to fill a book; Toussaint, Worthington and David R. Williams, PhD, edited a 2015 book, "Forgiveness and Health," that detailed the physical and psychological benefits.
... While stress relief is important, Enright believes there are other important mechanisms by which forgiveness works its magic. One of those, he suggests, is "toxic" anger. "There's nothing wrong with healthy anger, but when anger is very deep and long lasting, it can do a number on us systemically," he says. "When you get rid of anger, your muscles relax, you're less anxious, you have more energy, your immune system can strengthen."
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/264443222_The_psychology_of_forgiveness
2001. Tons of references even back then.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5320019/
Understanding the Relationship Between State Forgiveness and Psychological Wellbeing: A Qualitative Study
The present study indicates that beyond reducing depression and anxiety, state forgiveness may be a key facilitator of general cognitive, emotional and social wellbeing outcomes.
https://internationalforgiveness.com/research.htm
A large list of peer-reviewed empirical studies.
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