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In reply to the discussion: Six tips for men about "Compliments" [View all]pnwmom
(108,925 posts)25. A wonderful list. And one more addition:
Don't compliment someone on their weight loss.
Why? Because that means you're paying attention. That means you noticed she was overweight before.
And if you're close to the woman, she might think you're trying to give her positive reinforcement -- i.e., that you WANTED her to lose weight. Instead of loving her exactly as she was.
Just pretend that you didn't notice and she just looks wonderful, just like she always did.
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Seems like basic politeness rules. Or how to interact with REAL people (assumes women real people)
bobbieinok
Dec 2017
#5
I'm a woman, and I might comment to a woman colleague about something appearance-generic
lapislzi
Dec 2017
#18
It is inappropriate to tell a women that you know as a friend that you like her hair or some other
doc03
Dec 2017
#30