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MineralMan

(146,189 posts)
20. Yes. Being aware and thoughtful is always a good idea.
Wed Dec 6, 2017, 05:13 PM
Dec 2017

On the other hand, I was in the supermarket checkout line the other day, and the 20-something woman at the cash register, who is always friendly and talkative said, "You have a magnificent beard." I was not offended, but laughed and said, "Thanks. I grew it myself."

However, I guarantee that I will not make any appearance comments to her, nor flirt with her. It would be unseemly for a 72 year old man to do that.

Like I said... Iggo Dec 2017 #1
Yep. n/t TygrBright Dec 2017 #2
Thank you Achilleaze Dec 2017 #3
Thank you, TygrBright. Glorfindel Dec 2017 #4
Seems like basic politeness rules. Or how to interact with REAL people (assumes women real people) bobbieinok Dec 2017 #5
Yep. Nutshell version: "Would you compliment a guy that way?" TygrBright Dec 2017 #8
That's a great rule! Basic LA Dec 2017 #12
It seems basic but apparently it isn't... Phentex Dec 2017 #13
This message was self-deleted by its author steve2470 Dec 2017 #6
Complete baloney: RandomAccess Dec 2017 #23
No need to be rude steve2470 Dec 2017 #28
Allowing people to volunteer RandomAccess Dec 2017 #34
Good advice. MineralMan Dec 2017 #7
Yep, good capsule summary. TygrBright Dec 2017 #10
For me, personal comments of any kind require some sort MineralMan Dec 2017 #14
I'm a woman, and I might comment to a woman colleague about something appearance-generic lapislzi Dec 2017 #18
Yes. Being aware and thoughtful is always a good idea. MineralMan Dec 2017 #20
It is inappropriate to tell a women that you know as a friend that you like her hair or some other doc03 Dec 2017 #30
Just So You Know ProfessorGAC Dec 2017 #9
Excellent Pacifist Patriot Dec 2017 #11
I am deeply honored. Thanks for telling me. n/t TygrBright Dec 2017 #15
May I add another tip for men (or women) not about appearance crazycatlady Dec 2017 #16
That doesn't really work as a universal rule, though. MineralMan Dec 2017 #17
I hung a "free hugs" sign on my office door lapislzi Dec 2017 #19
Yup. Some people are avid huggers. MineralMan Dec 2017 #21
Wow! Duppers Dec 2017 #35
Personal space is very important to me crazycatlady Dec 2017 #37
Thank You for the outstanding post..and the time you took to write it.. Stuart G Dec 2017 #22
Extraordinary intro material -- RandomAccess Dec 2017 #24
A wonderful list. And one more addition: pnwmom Dec 2017 #25
CLIFF notes edition - Don't.... To many crazies to take a chance. bagelsforbreakfast Dec 2017 #26
Here is another tip I have seen: spooky3 Dec 2017 #27
So I was at the gym a while back and a lady I barely knew said doc03 Dec 2017 #29
The first one was just about clothing treestar Dec 2017 #39
From the op I read if you would comment on how a women's clothing looks doc03 Dec 2017 #41
I don't get why some folks here set themselves wasupaloopa Dec 2017 #31
Gee how do you ever get to #6 if you obey all the first #5 to the letter? doc03 Dec 2017 #32
By talking about other things treestar Dec 2017 #38
I think unknowingly you have pointed out why this has never and probably will never change. Egnever Dec 2017 #33
Best advice for men: Don't even think about it. MindPilot Dec 2017 #36
The best advice is treat women how you'd want men to treat your mom, sister, wife and daughter(s). Fla Dem Dec 2017 #40
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