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In reply to the discussion: Six tips for men about "Compliments" [View all]lapislzi
(5,762 posts)Like, "oh, I see you bought those cute flats you were telling me about. Nice!" I *think* those are harmless compliments. I would hope someone would tell me if they were unwelcome.
However, to the woman whose hair becomes blonder and blonder every month, I would never remark on that. I have seen some whoppers--major plastic surgery or other no-go areas that are just plain kryptonite for either gender. They are an elephant in the room that goes ignored unto eternity. You ARE required to inform a woman colleague if her skirt is all caught up in her panty hose (or other wardrobe malfunction has occurred) when leaving the rest room, however.
I have never spoken to a man about his appearance except to tell him his shoe was untied.
You have to learn to read situations.