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In reply to the discussion: Six tips for men about "Compliments" [View all]TygrBright
(20,733 posts)When you do know someone, regardless of the gender thing, the relationship may relax to the point of "I like your new haircut, looks good on you."
And to some extent, because of how we're socialized, women collude in the "comment on how I look" thing because our looks have been so important to our success in human interaction that it becomes a way of establishing even non-sexual intimacy. We do it among ourselves all the time. "Dayum, woman, that jacket is GREAT on you!" from a female colleague we're friendly with will bring a big grin to our faces. Then the innocent male colleague, wanting to build friendship/intimacy, sees that and thinks "Okay, I'll tell her how much I like those new shoes she was showing off to Edna in the break room" and things get awkward...
We have a long way to go.
We can get there if we work together.
appreciatively,
Bright