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In reply to the discussion: Is there a man left who can't be accused of sexual impropriety? [View all]mercuryblues
(14,531 posts)they now have to think about what they say and do with women they interact with. You know, something women have done their entire lives. So when their ass is grabbed the question won't be "what did you say to lead him on?"
It really isn't difficult to not grab someone in the crotch or tell a stranger how hot their body is. I have managed to not do that my entire life. I wish I could say the same about the men who have violated not only my physical space, but also my emotional one. What 15 year old would like to be asked by a strange adult man if he can "rub his dick on my tits" walking home from school? His buddies laughed. I wanted to cry. That was the day when I knew walking alone was dangerous for me. In broad daylight. I made an effort to not miss the bus anymore and if I did I took the longer route home.
There was an elementary school around the corner from my home that had a great hill to skateboard down. I was supposed to meet a friend there, but she got delayed. An older kid in my neighborhood tried to rape me. Luckily the custodian at the school saw and came out and stopped him. Guess what I never did again? skateboard.
Look at the case with Thrush. He is using his alcohol consumption as an excuse for his behavior, yet women are blamed if they were drinking and were assaulted. The Stanford rapist did the same thing, used his drinking to say he was too drunk to know what he was doing, yet the woman's alcohol consumption was brought up in the context of, if she wasn't drinking she wouldn't have been raped. Women's bodies and how the behave have been used as a weapon against them and now that they say enough, #metoo, *some* men want to play the victim.
I do find it odd that so many women have come forward with the #metoo, yet so many men claim they don't know any males that have sexually harassed women, ever. Take a look at Moore, his harassment was the worst kept secret in town, yet his victims aren't believed. How many of his buddies will say they never saw him sexually harassing women? yet he was doing it openly.
So no. I am not upset that boys and men are expected to treat females with respect and not sexually degrade them.