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Mc Mike

(9,111 posts)
53. No. I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth.
Sat Oct 1, 2016, 01:13 PM
Oct 2016

Last edited Sun Mar 4, 2018, 02:07 AM - Edit history (2)

Your first post brought up irrational phobias, like spiders and snakes. Your second post mocked my "actuarial stats" statement. So I looked up the stats to try to show you the difference in mortality rates, between irrational subconscious and conscious phobia driven fears, and rational subconsicous and conscious fears as described in Marge's archetypal phrase.

There's some things I agree with in your post 50, I'm not trying to alienate you, but do regard your statements vs the o.p. as alienating. But your "differ" ences from me, regarding my "expectations", puzzle me a bit. I don't pretend to tell women what they "should think" regarding the existence of a murderous threat from evil archetype oriented men. I observed their statements about what they do think, and assess the ideas myself. In this thread, you tell women what they should think, then say I'm doing so via my "expectations of what they should think". They say what they think, you say they think wrong, I say they think right but you think wrong, then you say I tell them what to think. At least, that's how I see things, and it confuses rather than wounds me.

One thing I notice, though, is you're sticking to your "4 or 3%" stat, and "11%" stat for men. It's helpful when you make claims like that to add a link to your source for that info. And you're brushing aside the fact that the killers of men and women are mostly always men (Over 90%, sez the Justice Dept.: http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/htus8008.pdf "Males were convicted of the vast majority of homicides in the United States, representing 90.5% of the total number of offenders." ).

I suppose everybody has a healthy fear of being killed, but this o.p. argument is about the inter-relationship between men and women, and as we already established, men do most of the killing. Once in a blue moon, you'll get your aileen wuornoses, or your squeeky frommes, but they don't factor in much overall to tip the "murderer gender" scales.

You have things a bit backwards, it's not that "women are most affected so should be most fearful of the problem", it's that "men affect the murder rates in the most negative way (by driving them up). So women (and men) should be more cognizant of the problem", and think strategically and act tactically to deal with it. The Atwood archetype statement is a tactic, a strategy. I remember one quote that defined "power" as "the ability to understand and define phenomena, and make a change". Something like that. I think Atwood (and people who agree with her) are intelligently summing up the situation with the knowledge easily available at hand, are strategically thinking, and using archetypal concepts in a tactical way.

I've already inoculated myself against your "Mike pushes mortality salience" accusation -- that I "believe women are mentally weaker and should cower in fear" -- with my Yellowbelly analysis. Enjoy:



There's a fair amount of highly negative action in the 1 min clip, but the satire was more confirmational commentary than celebration. Katherine O'Hare is comedy gold, but Andrea Martin was the Queen of broad physical comedy in that show.

The next line, after your already-defused false "sexist mortal salience promoter" charge, seems like an admonition to "toughen up, ladies", about this "whole woman man killer" thing. The admonition is part of a phrasing argument you make to further a charge vs me of "sexism vs. women", and the phrase has 4 mentions of "men" and one of "women". So to sum up, that's "toughen up ladies...men men men men ... Mike is sexist." Ironic. It's tough to wrap my head around this one, aki.

Your next sentence states that I'm more sexist against men. Some prejudiced people, when called out on it, will say "I'm not racist, I hate everybody equally." Maybe I could re-tool that phrase in response to your charges.

We're still stuck on the "women fear death men valid?" half of the debate, so it seems senseless to discuss Atwood's correct observation, which I agree with, about "men fear women laughter valid.". Long deliberative observational analysis leaves me thinking that it's the only ascertainable "threat" from the archetypal woman gender that can be seen. I know one guy's observation is antecdotal, not definitive evidence, but I'm a big-picture thinker. I say laugh it up ladies, my feelings don't get hurt that easy. If bad guys could accept womens' laughs and modify their ideas/behavior as a result, the world would be a better place. The "laugh-ee" should take it as a gentle reproof from their betters, not like it's a gang of gossipy mean little old ladies from the village sewing circle standing around dRump in stocks, pointing at his small junk and raining down jeers. But I'm sorry for being totally sexist and insulting in my previous post to you, anyway, if that's how you saw it.

(This is overlong, aki, but here's a small diversionary antecdotal story. It has the added benefit of being all true. A young lady that I knew hit 5 different businesses in an armed robbery spree in our neighborhood. (Drug problems) We were never close, she was ~ 6 years younger than me, but she grew up in the house I lived in from birth - 6 y.o., and I played football and stickball on the street with her older brother, so I always knew her as a little pee wee toddler with Polish white blond hair. She was big-boned as an adult, but had to have been armed to hit all those places spread out over a half mile, so fast. I heard about it, saw some media coverage, and was picking up some food at a pizza joint about 10 days later, and she came in the shop door. (She hadn't robbed that joint, bypassed it in her earlier spree.)

For a split second, fear crossed my mind. But it only entailed me looking at her face, her hands and orientation of her arms, and gauging the counter in "jumping over clearances" terms.

It wasn't a stick up. No trouble, I got the food and left, didn't stay to shoot the breeze with her, we've never really talked with each other. It didn't cause me a long term deeply rooted traumatic fear of the opposite gender. I did have occasion to mention it to several different community members later -- "Tammy blankblank is out", imaginary me diving over the pizza counter. She had a very good lawyer I guess, & her aunt is a repug committeewoman in district 1 of our ward. The DA is a Dem, it's a Dem stronghold city and county, but he seemed to be more interested in anti-ACORN activities than community security, a real political animal, I never vote for the wretch. Whatever, after the fact, I'm not huddled in fear like we live in a Deathwish style city, I don't go around armed, don't alter my travels or shopping in the community. That antecdote just says there was this one time, some woman who I think I could have taken in a brawl, caused me a couple of moments of uncertainty and fear, and there are no overarching conclusions to draw from that one incident. Some women can be dangerous, the cute little blond toddler could turn into a big boned druggie biker stick up woman, but there's no archetype there.)

The correct response to the question about the orange drumpfenfuhrer's assault is "He's going to kill me, he's killing me, now. I'm going to die." Everybody with even a tiny little bit on the ball knows exactly what Ivana was thinking.

Nobody laughs at the drumpfenfuhrer. I think that's what he had his mouthpiece Omarosa say on Frontline, anyhow. He's a clown, but he's more like one of those woods clowns that are so vogue these days. More of a slashing hobo than a singing one.
Are men actually afraid women (or anyone) will laugh at them though? Loki Liesmith Sep 2016 #1
Deeply so Warpy Sep 2016 #10
Are you sure about that? Seems like you hear of more girls who commit suicide from being laughed at Akicita Sep 2016 #46
Men are more likely to kill someone who laughs at them, not themselves. nt tblue37 Oct 2016 #56
I stopped caring when I was 17 or so. nt Francis Booth Sep 2016 #16
+1 deathrind Sep 2016 #51
Margaret Atwood is one of my favorite authors. guillaumeb Sep 2016 #2
she has long been one of my favouriites. niyad Sep 2016 #3
It is a somewhat older article. guillaumeb Sep 2016 #5
What you need is a man to explain to you why that's wrong. Orrex Sep 2016 #4
ah, yes, of course. if only. . . . niyad Sep 2016 #6
K&R for a classic. Brickbat Sep 2016 #7
K & R SunSeeker Sep 2016 #8
Great Quote. sheshe2 Sep 2016 #9
Was Atwood refering to a Middle Eastern culture? The men and women I know don't typically go through Akicita Sep 2016 #11
there is plenty of dmoestic abuse in this country and all over the world Fast Walker 52 Sep 2016 #12
That's *different* though ck4829 Sep 2016 #18
was hoping that was sarcasm Fast Walker 52 Sep 2016 #27
True. But if you asked typical men and women to list the top ten things they fear I think being Akicita Sep 2016 #20
That's so cute! REP Sep 2016 #31
Thank you so much. Akicita Sep 2016 #47
The statement is "archetypal", and you somehow confused that descriptive word with "atypical". Mc Mike Sep 2016 #42
Obvious we are not on the same page. Akicita Sep 2016 #44
It's fair to say we're not on the same page. Mc Mike Sep 2016 #49
Nice try trying to put words in my mouth. Nowhere did I state that people think they are more likely Akicita Sep 2016 #50
No. I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. Mc Mike Oct 2016 #53
"I know what she went through" annabanana Oct 2016 #55
Sandra Fluke, not Sandra Bland. Bland died for failing to show sufficient submission tblue37 Oct 2016 #57
Thank you, tblue. Corrected. Mc Mike Oct 2016 #58
Or a sign that shows there are so many outrages and abuses that it gets hard to tblue37 Oct 2016 #62
When Alton Sterling and Philando Castile got murdered, I had to write Mc Mike Oct 2016 #63
Excellent post. annabanana Oct 2016 #54
Thanks, & you're welcome, anna. nt. Mc Mike Oct 2016 #64
+1000 smirkymonkey Oct 2016 #59
Thanks, nt. Mc Mike Oct 2016 #65
A young lady I was steady with when we were 16-21 ended up marrying a Middle Eastern man. Francis Booth Sep 2016 #17
I have a similar story, though as probability would indicate, the husband was a white, Christian mal LanternWaste Sep 2016 #22
Bastards come in all flavors, I guess. Francis Booth Sep 2016 #25
I too pretend to know what the men and women I know are thinking as well. LanternWaste Sep 2016 #21
You and the op apparently Egnever Sep 2016 #24
The OP is not Margaret Atwood. The OP quoted Margaret Atwood. REP Sep 2016 #32
Are you directing that comment at me or the person who pretends to know that women fear being killed Akicita Sep 2016 #48
It is not the fears that are logical or expressed. smirkymonkey Oct 2016 #61
"Perhaps both should stop living in fear." Shandris Sep 2016 #13
For women, that's not really a safe approach to life Patiod Sep 2016 #41
As a woman, I see the truth in this quote. mountain grammy Sep 2016 #14
+1 Betty88 Sep 2016 #19
I am a man and I get it 100%. JanMichael Sep 2016 #26
so does my husband mountain grammy Sep 2016 #33
So do I. To be honest, men terrify me. I don't want to think this way, smirkymonkey Sep 2016 #45
After hearing this, a man tried to Ilsa Sep 2016 #15
correct Skittles Sep 2016 #23
witness some of the replies in this thread alone. niyad Sep 2016 #28
. . . niyad Sep 2016 #29
More than anything, ronnie624 Sep 2016 #30
I was always the anti-male, which earned me quite a bit of bullying Francis Booth Sep 2016 #43
Sorry to hear that. I don't think this hyper-masculine culture is good for smirkymonkey Oct 2016 #60
Thanks - funnily enough, my son turned out exactly as I was; shy, Francis Booth Oct 2016 #66
nearly every woman will tell you that they dont like to go out alone at night. mopinko Sep 2016 #34
and yet, we have people on this thread alone denying the reality of women's existence. niyad Sep 2016 #35
i know. mopinko Sep 2016 #36
I do understand!! niyad Sep 2016 #37
"fight back"--holly near niyad Sep 2016 #38
we need that post like button. mopinko Sep 2016 #39
you are most welcome niyad Sep 2016 #40
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