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Restraining order? HooptieWagon Sep 2015 #1
deadbolts are definitely coming soon retrowire Sep 2015 #2
He has to pose a threat... HooptieWagon Sep 2015 #4
they haven't confronted him retrowire Sep 2015 #7
Put up 'No Trespassing' signs, etc. nt No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #9
question retrowire Sep 2015 #16
I don't know the answer, but someone locally - police, library, lawyer - does No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #21
Can they fence the yard? HooptieWagon Sep 2015 #11
fence too expensive retrowire Sep 2015 #17
if the woman is a single mom, she won't confront him alone wordpix Sep 2015 #82
while the feminist in me retrowire Sep 2015 #87
This may sound like the craziest advice but it will work wonders for confidence. snagglepuss Sep 2015 #88
I never thought about this retrowire Sep 2015 #89
Just note they have to the ones that are completely mirrored snagglepuss Sep 2015 #90
When in this kind of situation always document everything jwirr Sep 2015 #12
I second that. Cameras wouldn't hurt either. nt No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #24
they are a must and get an electric fence wordpix Sep 2015 #83
Restraining orders are worthless. You have to be prepared to protect yourself and others. nt alphafemale Sep 2015 #47
What was the offense? Was there no notification that he was going to move there? Brickbat Sep 2015 #3
liberties with a minor retrowire Sep 2015 #5
How about having the most authoritarian family member No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #6
see post 7 for more detail. retrowire Sep 2015 #8
Why does the creep have access to the dog? snagglepuss Sep 2015 #10
Because he's able to walk into the backyard and interact with it. n/t retrowire Sep 2015 #28
In no way is it OK for ANYONE to walk onto someone else's property. cwydro Sep 2015 #37
Given that their a house doesn't have a fence snagglepuss Sep 2015 #69
years ago, my baby stroller was stolen from my back yard wordpix Sep 2015 #86
I worked 2 years teaching math and science to Juvenile sexual offenders Ichingcarpenter Sep 2015 #13
Indeed. Talking to him would be a good start. Chemisse Sep 2015 #70
I wouldn't talk to him. If he is roguevalley Sep 2015 #97
Exactly. You don't engage with a sex offender who is BreakfastClub Sep 2015 #98
Mental? Do you mean mentally ill? Chemisse Sep 2015 #140
Is there a school or child-care center within . . . R. P. McMurphy Sep 2015 #14
He does live close enough to a university retrowire Sep 2015 #22
Residency restrictions as far as schools are concerned only deal with K-12, preschools, and daycares NuclearDem Sep 2015 #39
The first thing is to confirm your neighbors identity. The fact snagglepuss Sep 2015 #15
i updated the op with more details. n/t retrowire Sep 2015 #26
You have not confirmed it is the person in question davidpdx Sep 2015 #103
correct retrowire Sep 2015 #114
I'm confused. You say the family is not 100% certain if the sex offender is this guy?. . . Journeyman Sep 2015 #18
I just updated the initial post with much better details, sorry! retrowire Sep 2015 #19
Your family should confirm who it is they're afraid of first REP Sep 2015 #20
Dog is in the backyard and not all day either. retrowire Sep 2015 #25
Edited! REP Sep 2015 #27
whether or not he is the same guy- he is dead wrong. she should introduce herself and explain that bettyellen Sep 2015 #45
script and a strategy retrowire Sep 2015 #49
may I suggest perusing Captain Awkward and searching "personal safety" for scripts? bettyellen Sep 2015 #57
thanks so much for your help retrowire Sep 2015 #61
of course! it seemed to me that she was a bit too shocked to react in the moment.... bettyellen Sep 2015 #68
Well and the thing is she hasn't confirmed that davidpdx Sep 2015 #104
Hey I am not trying to be funny , but a long time ago I had a girlfriend who had some Person 2713 Sep 2015 #23
they need to have a talk with the daughter about how to deal with strangers and keeping boundaries bettyellen Sep 2015 #29
Yeah, a lock on the kennel might be a good idea. cwydro Sep 2015 #35
I would have interrupted and cheerfully asked her to go inside, introduce myself and get his name... bettyellen Sep 2015 #43
You need someone to put their foot down ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2015 #30
Yes, this. ladyVet Sep 2015 #117
I agree with poster above to document everything. HooptieWagon Sep 2015 #31
Deadbolts will help Warpy Sep 2015 #32
Please don't over-react Joanie Baloney Sep 2015 #33
The recidivism rate for sex offenders is pretty high. HooptieWagon Sep 2015 #36
Actually, it's among the lowest for all criminals. NuclearDem Sep 2015 #40
Actually, it isn't high Joanie Baloney Sep 2015 #42
I'm glad you posted this and didn't let the person who said this get away with it davidpdx Sep 2015 #107
You're welcome Joanie Baloney Sep 2015 #108
I know someone who was recently released davidpdx Sep 2015 #111
That's a myth, for what it's worth. Xithras Sep 2015 #44
Actually it's lower than that, and lower than any other crime. MindPilot Sep 2015 #51
Arrest vs. conviction. Xithras Sep 2015 #63
links please! I think you are wrong. Nt Logical Sep 2015 #92
Sorry - just saw your reply Joanie Baloney Sep 2015 #109
The bastard does not have the right to groom another child. alphafemale Sep 2015 #53
The problem here is that a stranger is being too friendly with the child. yardwork Sep 2015 #56
Somebody messing with my dog in that way cwydro Sep 2015 #34
i thought i did retrowire Sep 2015 #52
Is he worried about the dog? TBF Sep 2015 #62
the dog is perfectly fine and well taken care of retrowire Sep 2015 #67
That suggest to me that you are mistaken about his identity. Ms. Toad Sep 2015 #110
the police haven't seen the person retrowire Sep 2015 #115
Is he a "known sex offender" or not? Orrex Sep 2015 #119
i see retrowire Sep 2015 #122
No, I'm not offended, but careless imprecision damages one's credibility Orrex Sep 2015 #123
I think he's attracted to the dog. rug Sep 2015 #38
Get a camera, even a game camera if you want to be cheap Travis_0004 Sep 2015 #41
"a large bald black man" MindPilot Sep 2015 #46
Well, it was stated that edgineered Sep 2015 #54
Well played, well played... MindPilot Sep 2015 #60
I'm only giving the description retrowire Sep 2015 #55
What does his skin color have to do with anything? MindPilot Sep 2015 #58
no, i thought the bi-polar thing was evidence of MORE poor boundaries and impulse control. bettyellen Sep 2015 #64
I'm confused where the information of him being out of the hospital for whatever is coming from. cwydro Sep 2015 #112
He told the child about his mental health issues.... bettyellen Sep 2015 #120
Holy cow. I missed that. cwydro Sep 2015 #124
Unfortunately this woman is a bit scared. Whether she says something with her phone in hand or bettyellen Sep 2015 #125
because its a visual descriptor. retrowire Sep 2015 #65
Bingo. Ms. Toad Sep 2015 #116
thanks for the explanation retrowire Sep 2015 #118
Give it a rest. This is a 840high Sep 2015 #71
thank you. n/t retrowire Sep 2015 #73
Do get over yourself. nt Codeine Sep 2015 #84
i have to second warpy restorefreedom Sep 2015 #48
How about keeping the dog inside vankuria Sep 2015 #50
1. You may want to consider going to the Sheriff's Office Evergreen Emerald Sep 2015 #59
these are great bits of advice thank you! n/t retrowire Sep 2015 #66
It's also possible he's on probation or parole Jesus Malverde Sep 2015 #72
Those are great bits of advice. I would also suggest that your snagglepuss Sep 2015 #77
put a camera up and call the police. Sunlei Sep 2015 #74
on top of that move the dog inside & don't leave a dog outside when you're not home. Sunlei Sep 2015 #75
This man needs explicit instruction to roody Sep 2015 #76
How about direct confrontation. Trespass on my property again and I will call the police. I know you Pisces Sep 2015 #78
the mother is afraid retrowire Sep 2015 #79
He should be afraid she doesn't kill him when he next steps foot on her property. Predators Pisces Sep 2015 #113
Hyperbole. Comatose Sphagetti Sep 2015 #80
okay, another user who makes it about race retrowire Sep 2015 #85
Ignore the posters who are trying to do that. cwydro Sep 2015 #105
You are absolutely correct to be extremely cautious and protective. While it's all sunshine and underahedgerow Sep 2015 #135
You dont think offering a stranger's 9 year old rides to school is concerning behavior? Warren DeMontague Sep 2015 #96
Definitely Dorian Gray Sep 2015 #101
This is about a family - who don't 840high Sep 2015 #127
OK, this is where I might take shooting lessons wordpix Sep 2015 #81
You are the second person in the thread to mention a gun davidpdx Sep 2015 #106
Where? Chan790 Sep 2015 #91
There's been a lot of good advice - Mother Of Four Sep 2015 #93
Is the dog neglected? Is it walked daily? roody Sep 2015 #94
I think you're wise to trust your gut, especially on those red flags. Warren DeMontague Sep 2015 #95
Obviously, there is ohheckyeah Sep 2015 #99
I live in NYC Dorian Gray Sep 2015 #100
No to the "thanks but" yes to "nope, it would not be okay for you to do that, please don't approach bettyellen Sep 2015 #121
What's this man's name? Orrex Sep 2015 #102
Stop trying to bait him into a witch hunt already. Transparent fake concern. bettyellen Sep 2015 #126
Golly! Such righteous indignation! Golly! Orrex Sep 2015 #128
God forbid you be kind to someone who has good reason to worry about their niece and SIL. bettyellen Sep 2015 #129
God forbid we get our facts straight before we rush to condemn Orrex Sep 2015 #130
I've actually been helping- you have chosen to badger (upthread( and bettyellen Sep 2015 #131
Ridicule? Please. Orrex Sep 2015 #134
i have a name, whether or not it is HIS name has yet to be decided. nt retrowire Sep 2015 #139
Did you talk to this guy? If not, why not? randome Sep 2015 #132
I'm not naming someone whom it may not be retrowire Sep 2015 #137
You've received some good advice, which I can only second. historylovr Sep 2015 #133
thank you. n.t retrowire Sep 2015 #138
Well, keep us posted. cwydro Sep 2015 #136
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