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No Vested Interest

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144. So the host forgot the vegetarian option? He was tending to his relatives, the "guests of honor",
Sun Aug 30, 2015, 01:50 PM
Aug 2015

so to speak?
It happens.
He made a mistake.
Move on.

Many people don't have any idea madaboutharry Aug 2015 #1
Yet again. I got invited for dinner and was assured that their would be a vegetarian Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #2
You should say something to them. madaboutharry Aug 2015 #3
We've said it like a bazillian times. They are our best fiends and they are not getting Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #9
Um, yeah laundry_queen Aug 2015 #23
Why does it have to be the most bland vegetarian option? Did they serve the worst possible caprese? merrily Aug 2015 #31
Because they are being thoughtless laundry_queen Aug 2015 #36
Are they? As I said, a caprese is one of my favorite summer meals. merrily Aug 2015 #37
Well, the OP seemed to think it was a bit of a slap. laundry_queen Aug 2015 #110
Well, my love of caprese and how I think friends behave toward each other. merrily Aug 2015 #113
Caprese is my favorite food. Period. Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #197
"a big ol' caprese salad" kentauros Aug 2015 #198
It wasn't the entree. The salad was for the table and there was enough for about 3 slices of tomato Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #200
I get it. I understand why you were upset. Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #204
Thank you. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #206
Sorry that happened that they gave you cheese Aerows Aug 2015 #217
I've no problem with cheese. I have a problem with the vegetarian option was 3 slices of tomatoes Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #220
So you are a vegetarian? Aerows Aug 2015 #222
For a vegan. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #224
There's a new miracle egg-substitute around called "aquafaba" kentauros Sep 2015 #229
That's a bazillion - 2 opportunities you've had bvf Aug 2015 #45
Maybe the answer might be not to cook them meat treestar Aug 2015 #83
Well, there's your problem, right there Warpy Aug 2015 #157
Stop cooking them meat!!! roody Aug 2015 #166
It'll be okay in the morning :) snooper2 Sep 2015 #236
I cook meat for my grandchildren kpete Sep 2015 #246
Or even left off the meat on a small part of the main one. No excuse for that one. PoliticAverse Aug 2015 #7
Vegetarians won't eat it because it was in close proximity to meat Aerows Aug 2015 #218
meat cooties! snooper2 Sep 2015 #237
A lot of people think that's all vegetarians eat. Or they're confused about differences pnwmom Aug 2015 #38
Funny - we always make vegetarian lasagna malaise Aug 2015 #67
I've always made vegetarian lasagna Aerows Aug 2015 #139
I agree malaise Aug 2015 #151
But you said they gave you a pasta dish too. LisaL Aug 2015 #99
They didn't. The pasta dish reference was from another time and a different Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #130
There really is no way to figure that out from reading the OP. LisaL Aug 2015 #155
I'm not teacher of grammar kentauros Aug 2015 #186
So somehow I am supposed to figure out that OP is also mad at somebody else for LisaL Aug 2015 #187
Admittedly, I didn't take it to be two different people, kentauros Aug 2015 #193
Well, it wasn't evident to me, and quite a few other posters. LisaL Aug 2015 #194
It was also evident to quite a few posters that it was separate events. kentauros Aug 2015 #196
I agree with you. I read it the same way you did. kcr Aug 2015 #210
I sounded rude...but I didn't mean it in that way. I meant I think it's kind of funny C Moon Aug 2015 #207
Dude, if someone invites you over and prepares Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #4
Word. Nictuku Aug 2015 #5
Um. I, as a vegetarian, prepare a special meal for my meat eating friends. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #6
You cook - and keep score - so now they owe you? Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #16
I am actually surprised that you would participate in the turkey killing that occurs every year for Tipperary Aug 2015 #41
No one wants a vegetarian thanksgiving.. TipTok Aug 2015 #58
It's non-traditional, not non-normal iwillalwayswonderwhy Aug 2015 #62
That's nice but at my house we have the full turkey meal yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #105
Yes, you are right iwillalwayswonderwhy Aug 2015 #114
I would never do that. yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #117
so what is normal, anyway? you, I assume? and you get to judge? NRaleighLiberal Aug 2015 #65
normal? handmade34 Aug 2015 #92
Define "normal" please. Autumn harvest food can be many different things, and uppityperson Aug 2015 #175
Thanksgiving meal is the most popular in america yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #108
and heirloom turkey dsc Aug 2015 #133
like artisanal arugula Facility Inspector Aug 2015 #149
I like food, frankly way too much dsc Aug 2015 #150
But when you do nice things for other people Facility Inspector Aug 2015 #148
I didn't expect something in return. I expected what was promised Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #188
Well that right there is asshat behavior by your friend nadine_mn Sep 2015 #273
Didn't your mama teach you manners? You don't invite a Jew to eat pork. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #10
This message was self-deleted by its author merrily Aug 2015 #32
They didn't invite a Jew to eat pork or a vegetarian to eat meat, though. merrily Aug 2015 #33
The meatless option was for everyone. Not just me. So, my dinner was 3 hearty slices Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #73
They did not have enough food then. merrily Aug 2015 #81
What about the tortellini and sauce? oberliner Aug 2015 #90
The tortellinis referenced were from another time and a different person Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #132
Oops - sorry about that oberliner Aug 2015 #138
You were provided with a vegetarian entrée and a caprese salad oberliner Aug 2015 #85
nuff said: kpete Sep 2015 #248
I think you are wrong here. madaboutharry Aug 2015 #11
Caprese salad! Yum! Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #17
Poptarts aren't vegetarian because of gelatin IVoteDFL Aug 2015 #19
No kidding. They put gelatin in everything now. beam me up scottie Aug 2015 #42
I used to pretend I know what kind of friendship strangers may or may not have too... LanternWaste Sep 2015 #270
nods DonCoquixote Aug 2015 #25
A good caprese salad is made with lots of good mozzarella cheese and tomatoes. merrily Aug 2015 #34
The OP says that the host also gave them a vegetarian pasta dish oberliner Aug 2015 #87
You need to work on your reading comprehension so people don't laugh at what you write. jtuck004 Aug 2015 #24
Second that Demeter Aug 2015 #27
Allergic to quinoa? That's a new one. smirkymonkey Aug 2015 #48
I agree. I am a vegetarian, and guess what, when I am invited over to someones place for dinner, I still_one Aug 2015 #28
Great post. TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2015 #239
It is the people and getting together that count still_one Sep 2015 #241
Frequently, the menu is also dictated by finances. TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2015 #247
LOL still_one Sep 2015 #249
I love bloody juicy meat, and get annoyed by snooty vegetarians.... Adrahil Aug 2015 #127
:) maybe then it's more an attitude about Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #141
It depends upon the event... Adrahil Aug 2015 #145
Seriously. uppityperson Aug 2015 #174
Maybe you will get your wish. Nictuku Aug 2015 #8
I hope so. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #13
I can't believe they served you frozen tortellinis. Nye Bevan Aug 2015 #12
:) Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #14
This is why I don't have dinner guests. No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #15
McDonald's run? ellisonz Aug 2015 #18
I've only been a vegetarian for going on two years IVoteDFL Aug 2015 #20
seems to be a conflict here - claim to be vegtarian yet cooking meat for any old occasion nt msongs Aug 2015 #21
I'm guessing the OP is vegetarian for environmental or health reasons and not the animals. mucifer Aug 2015 #56
My husband and daughter eat meat. We host 3 feasts a year. Since I am a far better Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #134
Someone should post vegetarian recipes that non vegetarians could use as a guide. Kablooie Aug 2015 #22
Then let's start with Jamie Oliver, kentauros Aug 2015 #29
I am not a vegetarian, but one of my all time favorite meals is SoCalDem Aug 2015 #39
I imagine that innumerable such recipes are already available on the internet. nt tblue37 Aug 2015 #52
What---we don't eat pasta dishes? Vegetables? WinkyDink Aug 2015 #103
I bring my own food, so does my daughter gwheezie Aug 2015 #26
It sounds like they did purchase a vegetarian pasta dish specifically for the OP. LisaL Aug 2015 #102
There's usually something I can eat gwheezie Aug 2015 #185
Wow! Le Taz Hot Aug 2015 #30
When they invited me and my husband (who eats meat) they explicitly told me Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #78
But they did purchase a vegetarian option for you. LisaL Aug 2015 #106
Actually. The only option presented was a caprese salad offered to everyone. My meal Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #129
So the host forgot the vegetarian option? He was tending to his relatives, the "guests of honor", No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #144
Actually. The host was my friend's mom who was agitated that she hadn't been told by Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #221
For your sake, I hope you can and have already moved past this incident. No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #231
Vegetarians are pretty easy to deal with Aerows Aug 2015 #123
. . . Le Taz Hot Aug 2015 #124
I am a "pain in the ass" vegan. I expect nothing. I would just eat the bread and salad Liberal_in_LA Aug 2015 #153
If served a purely vegan meal Aerows Aug 2015 #162
I say nothing about my veganism. i simply assemble a plate of Liberal_in_LA Aug 2015 #164
When I offer you beans and rice I've cooked all day Aerows Aug 2015 #223
I don't ask about spices! Liberal_in_LA Sep 2015 #268
LOL Beautiful, Aerows. I just inspect the beans to pick out the gravel, myself... Hekate Aug 2015 #160
And we have the thread Trailrider1951 Aug 2015 #214
What I would do: decide if you really want to be friends with these people or not. merrily Aug 2015 #35
^^this^^. My advice as well. n/t Euphoria Aug 2015 #46
Do you really not want to be invited to someone's house if they aren't very pnwmom Aug 2015 #40
My daughter dropped by with a friend of hers who has celiac disease and lactose intolerance- hedgehog Aug 2015 #147
I know it's hard to figure out at first. Rice, potatoes, and corn are fine with most Celiacs. pnwmom Aug 2015 #179
Confused.... Takket Aug 2015 #43
I guess I'm lucky. beam me up scottie Aug 2015 #44
My daughter was a vegetarian alphafemale Aug 2015 #47
It wasn't about you. alphafemale Aug 2015 #49
I think this is a great response! I am actually having difficulty with the many levels of wrong in Tipperary Aug 2015 #51
I was invited on the promise that their would be a vegetarian option Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #201
Why not cook a delicious vegetarian meal for your friends instead of flesh? Hun Joro Aug 2015 #50
Henceforth I will only serve vegetarians Orrex Aug 2015 #53
I cannot believe this post can be serious oberliner Aug 2015 #54
Wow you cook meat for people. I'm thinking you probably aren't a vegetarian for ethical reasons mucifer Aug 2015 #55
I live one mile as the crow flies from this vegan bakery. Apparently even Hollywood types order from WinkyDink Aug 2015 #107
You sneer at Caprese salad? Tomatoes, basil, and garlic, all straight from the garden. enough Aug 2015 #57
Got my own tomatoes and basil; home-made-mozzarella store 4 miles north. German garlic from the far- WinkyDink Aug 2015 #109
This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Sep 2015 #234
Some people just aren't into learning about cooking. Vinca Aug 2015 #59
Don't let it bother you jopacaco Aug 2015 #60
~ Lars39 Aug 2015 #61
Luminous Animal, madaboutharry Aug 2015 #63
My advice to her is to lighten the hell up. I don't do carbs. But NEVER expect that.... Logical Aug 2015 #79
You don't do carbs? oberliner Aug 2015 #84
Sorry. < 30 a day. For a year now. So some carbs yes. nt Logical Aug 2015 #86
That is fascinating oberliner Aug 2015 #89
I got to my high school weight and off my HB meds. Worked for me. nt Logical Aug 2015 #93
Can I ask how old you are (approximately) ? oberliner Aug 2015 #95
Lowering your carb intake Aerows Aug 2015 #168
Mid 50s. nt Logical Aug 2015 #183
I'm finally listening to long-ago advice: Eat nothing white. I want to go off HBP meds, too! WinkyDink Aug 2015 #111
I do next to no carbs, too Aerows Aug 2015 #167
Exactly! I do the same and moonscape Aug 2015 #169
True. I think people tend to read these things and insert themselves and how they'd react kcr Aug 2015 #212
Thank you. The host was actually rather upset that her daughter hadn't told her. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #219
You seem like a really nice person. madaboutharry Sep 2015 #228
I never make meat unless my dogs are sick. a la izquierda Aug 2015 #64
A feast should be a feast for all Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #66
If it's not a choice I would accommodate but you come to my house, yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #116
You food choices are resitricted because of your own choice to be a vegetarian. LisaL Aug 2015 #118
ICYDK, Vegetables are food Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #176
Don't worry. I won't invite you. Bluzmann57 Aug 2015 #68
+1000 nt Logical Aug 2015 #75
the problem is knowing what KIND of vegetarian they are...some won't eat dairy CTyankee Aug 2015 #69
You've been a very painstaking hostess for years. Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #70
Can I ask a question? RoccoR5955 Aug 2015 #71
They cook dead animals for their friends oberliner Aug 2015 #91
If they didn't care about the animals, they'd cook live animals Orrex Aug 2015 #119
LOBSTER! snooper2 Sep 2015 #240
You raise a difficult question. MineralMan Aug 2015 #72
Wow, lets just say I would never invite you over to dinner. You sound like a PITA. nt Logical Aug 2015 #74
she sounds like a pocket bread? Hekate Aug 2015 #163
Fill that pocket bread up Aerows Aug 2015 #172
You're making my mouth water Hekate Aug 2015 #180
Mine too. LisaL Aug 2015 #192
I AVOID CARBS, and you know I avoid carbs, Please invite me to dinner and I will deal with it! nt Logical Aug 2015 #76
I avoid carbs, too Aerows Aug 2015 #177
Speaking as a flexitarian I think too many people are giving you too much shit. CBGLuthier Aug 2015 #77
Being a vegetarian MuseRider Aug 2015 #80
The OP writer was offered "some frozen prepackaged vegetarian thing" oberliner Aug 2015 #88
It sounds like the OP MuseRider Aug 2015 #98
Fair enough oberliner Aug 2015 #104
Is it that hard to add some vegetable dishes to a menu? Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #97
Nope MuseRider Aug 2015 #100
dinner parties can take a lot of planning, shopping, preparing, expense . . . DrDan Aug 2015 #82
Also do note that a special meal was specifically purchased for this person oberliner Aug 2015 #94
I have some dietary restrictions TheOther95Percent Aug 2015 #96
As an omnivore, I'm opining---and not because of THEM---that you should not go against your WinkyDink Aug 2015 #101
The OP said that her husband eats meat, kiva Aug 2015 #120
Ah, sorry. I'm getting ADD as i age. WinkyDink Aug 2015 #182
It's a long thread, kiva Aug 2015 #199
I'm getting to be an old fart SwissTony Aug 2015 #112
When I go to a meat-eater party, I bring my own dish justiceischeap Aug 2015 #115
It's pretty crappy to complain about free food from someone's house. Deadshot Aug 2015 #121
This happened to me a few weeks ago..... Avalux Aug 2015 #122
Normaly I wouldn't invite a vegetarian... ryan_cats Aug 2015 #125
I lived with a vegan Aerows Aug 2015 #131
I follow a strict organic diet. Liberal Veteran Aug 2015 #158
The OP has already rejected frozen vegi dishes. Ms. Toad Aug 2015 #136
This is why I never invite vegetarian's over for dinner GummyBearz Aug 2015 #126
Ah, the Holidays, some of my favorite childhood memories... hunter Aug 2015 #128
Am I the only one who likes the frozen tortellini? riderinthestorm Aug 2015 #135
The frozen tortellinis referenced were from another incident when the host had realized Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #137
Ok so you're also mad about that episode too riderinthestorm Aug 2015 #140
No, you aren't the only one! noamnety Aug 2015 #184
Don't you just love that: come on over, we have salad. C Moon Aug 2015 #142
I chuckle every time I scroll past this comment kentauros Aug 2015 #189
Not cooking vegetarian, but cooking vegetables Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #190
I agree with that assessment. kentauros Aug 2015 #195
This somewhat... Chan790 Aug 2015 #143
OMG you cook dead animal flesh???? Boudica the Lyoness Aug 2015 #146
I agree melman Aug 2015 #154
Look at it this way, they may lack creativity, and talent, for cooking. Zorra Aug 2015 #152
Stop preparing meat for others, and share your delicious cuisine. Period. When I'm a guest... Hekate Aug 2015 #156
My veggie stepsister serves wonderful meat dishes, too! KamaAina Aug 2015 #159
Yeah, it sucks to be treated as an afterthought. GoCubsGo Aug 2015 #161
I always accomodate my vegetarian friends. KMOD Aug 2015 #165
If I were a guest in your home CrawlingChaos Aug 2015 #208
I would change your attitude. noamnety Aug 2015 #170
I shouldn't invite you to eat bread, salad, frozen pepackaged veggie thing I am eating? OK uppityperson Aug 2015 #171
i empathize. mine was from colitis and high carb stuff. NuttyFluffers Aug 2015 #173
when someone invites me to share food they've prepared... mike_c Aug 2015 #178
First-world problems. Nuclear Unicorn Aug 2015 #181
Bingo hueymahl Sep 2015 #252
People who go to bed hungry=People who lack vegetables. Bad Thoughts Sep 2015 #258
Yes, and lack of anything else to eat. hueymahl Sep 2015 #259
Because the broader implication is that the host put out no or little vegetables to eat Bad Thoughts Sep 2015 #260
I respect vegetarians, vegans and everyone else who has eating preferences (taco-tarians anyone?) hueymahl Sep 2015 #263
Just finished off a great yam with some okra and broccoli with cauliflower. Rex Aug 2015 #191
i was a vegetarian many years ago. DesertFlower Aug 2015 #202
Did you change? Are you no longer a vegetarian? No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #232
my friend was a vegetarian but she used to make DesertFlower Aug 2015 #203
Aww! So cute. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #205
If I invited a vegetarian leftyladyfrommo Aug 2015 #209
"Please do not invite me" lumberjack_jeff Aug 2015 #211
A host should not have to prepare 5 different meals to appease at a small dinner party.. alphafemale Aug 2015 #213
Something happened to me that utterly baffled me. Manifestor_of_Light Aug 2015 #215
First I ever heard of that, been doing some googles on "nightshades" and some seems like woo snooper2 Sep 2015 #242
They aren't that rare. I've had it my whole life Lorien Sep 2015 #257
I so understand this. I'm allergic to tomatoes too Lorien Sep 2015 #253
yes I have had people mad at me because I didnt overstuff myself at some holiday meal . I am lunasun Sep 2015 #254
I'll tell you what happens when I eat tomato. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2015 #275
So you're upset that your friends don't go to the same trouble as you do for them? cleanhippie Aug 2015 #216
No. I am upset that my friends promised a vegetarian option and that option consisted of 3 slices Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #226
Maybe they don't really want you there and this is their passive-aggressive way cleanhippie Sep 2015 #235
It is indeed, appreciative and rather grateful to invite a recovering alcoholic out for a few drinks LanternWaste Sep 2015 #269
Yeah, taking an alcoholic to a bar is exactly like making a shitty vegan meal for a vegan. cleanhippie Sep 2015 #271
were they really thick slices snooper2 Sep 2015 #243
They were probably the wrong kind, like Hothouse instead of Heirloom cleanhippie Sep 2015 #272
Almost sounds passive aggressive but I do not know the relationship lunasun Sep 2015 #255
Well this thread went 100 politics, recipes, and ways to make a ziploc bag Aerows Aug 2015 #225
Call Congress right effing now!!!!! aikoaiko Sep 2015 #227
Don't worry, I will not invite you. demosincebirth Sep 2015 #230
This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Sep 2015 #233
OK, I won't invite you. LannyDeVaney Sep 2015 #238
Yep my thought 2. dembotoz Sep 2015 #245
friends i have know for 20plus years kpete Sep 2015 #244
Many animals do eat other animals. LisaL Sep 2015 #256
yes kpete Sep 2015 #261
I would definitely stop serving them meat- and offer them recipes when they compliment your food. bettyellen Sep 2015 #250
I'm a vegetarian who is allergic to tomatoes and soy Lorien Sep 2015 #251
I suggest inviting them over for a good vegetarian meal. yellowcanine Sep 2015 #262
I am a vegetarian... I go into these situations expecting nothing. demmiblue Sep 2015 #264
I'm not a vegetarian. I've never met you. I'd still invite you over. Glassunion Sep 2015 #265
I am pretty flexible. But I was irritated on an occasion when I was sitting with a group who was GoneFishin Sep 2015 #266
I have noticed over the years that most everyone likes the veggie option... demmiblue Sep 2015 #267
I am sorry - this is less about what there was to eat and more about nadine_mn Sep 2015 #274
Ok... Snobblevitch Sep 2015 #276
How gracious of you Android3.14 Sep 2015 #277
I haven't read the thread. I may not. herding cats Sep 2015 #278
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