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In reply to the discussion: I am a vegetarian. You've known me as a vegetarian for 20 years. Please do not invite me [View all]pnwmom
(108,978 posts)38. A lot of people think that's all vegetarians eat. Or they're confused about differences
between vegans and vegetarians. You need to do some educating, I think.
Vegans wouldn't want that meatless lasagna, if it contained cheese. So I think you need to be clearer on what you will eat.
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I am a vegetarian. You've known me as a vegetarian for 20 years. Please do not invite me [View all]
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
OP
Yet again. I got invited for dinner and was assured that their would be a vegetarian
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#2
We've said it like a bazillian times. They are our best fiends and they are not getting
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#9
Why does it have to be the most bland vegetarian option? Did they serve the worst possible caprese?
merrily
Aug 2015
#31
It wasn't the entree. The salad was for the table and there was enough for about 3 slices of tomato
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#200
I've no problem with cheese. I have a problem with the vegetarian option was 3 slices of tomatoes
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#220
Or even left off the meat on a small part of the main one. No excuse for that one.
PoliticAverse
Aug 2015
#7
A lot of people think that's all vegetarians eat. Or they're confused about differences
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#38
They didn't. The pasta dish reference was from another time and a different
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#130
I sounded rude...but I didn't mean it in that way. I meant I think it's kind of funny
C Moon
Aug 2015
#207
Um. I, as a vegetarian, prepare a special meal for my meat eating friends.
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#6
I am actually surprised that you would participate in the turkey killing that occurs every year for
Tipperary
Aug 2015
#41
Define "normal" please. Autumn harvest food can be many different things, and
uppityperson
Aug 2015
#175
Didn't your mama teach you manners? You don't invite a Jew to eat pork.
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#10
The meatless option was for everyone. Not just me. So, my dinner was 3 hearty slices
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#73
The tortellinis referenced were from another time and a different person
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#132
I used to pretend I know what kind of friendship strangers may or may not have too...
LanternWaste
Sep 2015
#270
You need to work on your reading comprehension so people don't laugh at what you write.
jtuck004
Aug 2015
#24
I agree. I am a vegetarian, and guess what, when I am invited over to someones place for dinner, I
still_one
Aug 2015
#28
seems to be a conflict here - claim to be vegtarian yet cooking meat for any old occasion nt
msongs
Aug 2015
#21
I'm guessing the OP is vegetarian for environmental or health reasons and not the animals.
mucifer
Aug 2015
#56
My husband and daughter eat meat. We host 3 feasts a year. Since I am a far better
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#134
Someone should post vegetarian recipes that non vegetarians could use as a guide.
Kablooie
Aug 2015
#22
I imagine that innumerable such recipes are already available on the internet. nt
tblue37
Aug 2015
#52
It sounds like they did purchase a vegetarian pasta dish specifically for the OP.
LisaL
Aug 2015
#102
When they invited me and my husband (who eats meat) they explicitly told me
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#78
Actually. The only option presented was a caprese salad offered to everyone. My meal
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#129
So the host forgot the vegetarian option? He was tending to his relatives, the "guests of honor",
No Vested Interest
Aug 2015
#144
Actually. The host was my friend's mom who was agitated that she hadn't been told by
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#221
For your sake, I hope you can and have already moved past this incident.
No Vested Interest
Sep 2015
#231
I am a "pain in the ass" vegan. I expect nothing. I would just eat the bread and salad
Liberal_in_LA
Aug 2015
#153
LOL Beautiful, Aerows. I just inspect the beans to pick out the gravel, myself...
Hekate
Aug 2015
#160
What I would do: decide if you really want to be friends with these people or not.
merrily
Aug 2015
#35
My daughter dropped by with a friend of hers who has celiac disease and lactose intolerance-
hedgehog
Aug 2015
#147
I know it's hard to figure out at first. Rice, potatoes, and corn are fine with most Celiacs.
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#179
I think this is a great response! I am actually having difficulty with the many levels of wrong in
Tipperary
Aug 2015
#51
Wow you cook meat for people. I'm thinking you probably aren't a vegetarian for ethical reasons
mucifer
Aug 2015
#55
I live one mile as the crow flies from this vegan bakery. Apparently even Hollywood types order from
WinkyDink
Aug 2015
#107
You sneer at Caprese salad? Tomatoes, basil, and garlic, all straight from the garden.
enough
Aug 2015
#57
Got my own tomatoes and basil; home-made-mozzarella store 4 miles north. German garlic from the far-
WinkyDink
Aug 2015
#109
My advice to her is to lighten the hell up. I don't do carbs. But NEVER expect that....
Logical
Aug 2015
#79
I'm finally listening to long-ago advice: Eat nothing white. I want to go off HBP meds, too!
WinkyDink
Aug 2015
#111
True. I think people tend to read these things and insert themselves and how they'd react
kcr
Aug 2015
#212
Thank you. The host was actually rather upset that her daughter hadn't told her.
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#219
the problem is knowing what KIND of vegetarian they are...some won't eat dairy
CTyankee
Aug 2015
#69
Wow, lets just say I would never invite you over to dinner. You sound like a PITA. nt
Logical
Aug 2015
#74
I AVOID CARBS, and you know I avoid carbs, Please invite me to dinner and I will deal with it! nt
Logical
Aug 2015
#76
Speaking as a flexitarian I think too many people are giving you too much shit.
CBGLuthier
Aug 2015
#77
As an omnivore, I'm opining---and not because of THEM---that you should not go against your
WinkyDink
Aug 2015
#101
The frozen tortellinis referenced were from another incident when the host had realized
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#137
Stop preparing meat for others, and share your delicious cuisine. Period. When I'm a guest...
Hekate
Aug 2015
#156
I shouldn't invite you to eat bread, salad, frozen pepackaged veggie thing I am eating? OK
uppityperson
Aug 2015
#171
Because the broader implication is that the host put out no or little vegetables to eat
Bad Thoughts
Sep 2015
#260
I respect vegetarians, vegans and everyone else who has eating preferences (taco-tarians anyone?)
hueymahl
Sep 2015
#263
A host should not have to prepare 5 different meals to appease at a small dinner party..
alphafemale
Aug 2015
#213
First I ever heard of that, been doing some googles on "nightshades" and some seems like woo
snooper2
Sep 2015
#242
yes I have had people mad at me because I didnt overstuff myself at some holiday meal . I am
lunasun
Sep 2015
#254
So you're upset that your friends don't go to the same trouble as you do for them?
cleanhippie
Aug 2015
#216
No. I am upset that my friends promised a vegetarian option and that option consisted of 3 slices
Luminous Animal
Aug 2015
#226
Maybe they don't really want you there and this is their passive-aggressive way
cleanhippie
Sep 2015
#235
It is indeed, appreciative and rather grateful to invite a recovering alcoholic out for a few drinks
LanternWaste
Sep 2015
#269
Yeah, taking an alcoholic to a bar is exactly like making a shitty vegan meal for a vegan.
cleanhippie
Sep 2015
#271
I would definitely stop serving them meat- and offer them recipes when they compliment your food.
bettyellen
Sep 2015
#250
I am pretty flexible. But I was irritated on an occasion when I was sitting with a group who was
GoneFishin
Sep 2015
#266