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Zenlitened

(9,488 posts)
103. Never fails to disappoint.
Fri Jun 12, 2015, 10:29 PM
Jun 2015

A black woman tells of her experience in this life, out jumps a bunch of old white guys to blurt out, "I've never heard of that, it's not a big deal anyway, no you're the racist for bringing up race."

And they've lived such sheltered lives, apparently, that they really don't seem to realize how obviously, glaringly ridiculous their comments are to everyone looking on. Didn't you notice you walked out of the house today with no pants on?

It would be funny, I guess, if it wasn't so toxic. But it's so damn toxic. Leaves even an old white lady like me retching and ill.

One crazy old coot warrants a general warning to white people? B2G Jun 2015 #1
Yes. You'll be surprised how often this happens to black people Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 #2
Well I am surprised. B2G Jun 2015 #4
We have seen enough discussion about black hair on this website BainsBane Jun 2015 #11
Really? I've heard black women talk about this my whole life! It's funny because I have an unusually bettyellen Jun 2015 #16
Another thing is people patting a pregnant woman's abdomen... CTyankee Jun 2015 #115
If you call being a racist asshat a mental ailment, sure. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #21
Maybe he had dementia and didn't realize he was offensive. My mom Snotcicles Jun 2015 #23
We often fail to see that which invalidates our biases... LanternWaste Jun 2015 #25
I've never seen it either. cherokeeprogressive Jun 2015 #37
What the poster or the topic in question is very common JonLP24 Jun 2015 #132
perhaps you haven't witnessed it because you ariesgem Jun 2015 #46
" I've never witnessed such a thing" Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 #54
Larry King "I never learned anything while I was talking" JonLP24 Jun 2015 #134
It's happened to me several times malaise Jun 2015 #78
No mental ailment. Glassunion Jun 2015 #94
Not me or anyone else I know. nt. JanMichael Jun 2015 #60
Ask next time you're hanging out with a bunch of black women- because I've never heard of it NOT bettyellen Jun 2015 #64
I have heard the comment - "I wonder what it feels like" so I believe this post. jwirr Jun 2015 #125
Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2015 #129
OFFS...DEAR WHITE PEOPLE is the MOVIE TITLE!!!!!! MADem Jun 2015 #8
I am totally aware of the context, thanks. B2G Jun 2015 #9
What's up with the ' general warning' gripe, then? MADem Jun 2015 #18
It's a lot more common than this one guy Capt. Obvious Jun 2015 #13
was thinking the same thing Snow Leopard Jun 2015 #72
No, that would be okay because... institutional racism. Oppression. Something. SMC22307 Jun 2015 #133
Wait, this is actually a thing that happens on a regular basis? NuclearDem Jun 2015 #3
It's a common thing because one instance of it was posted on Twitter. nt B2G Jun 2015 #6
Are you really that sheltered? Capt. Obvious Jun 2015 #14
You need to get out more, lol. And stop gaslighting people when you are obviously out of your depth. bettyellen Jun 2015 #17
I eagerly await your post explaining that you have black friends. (nt) jeff47 Jun 2015 #49
LOL Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 #55
country of 330 million people...chances of it happening to one person a day snooper2 Jun 2015 #7
Yeah, it really is. F4lconF16 Jun 2015 #53
It's also a male-female thing mainer Jun 2015 #5
Ain't THAT the truth! Lilith Rising Jun 2015 #123
Conversely, I once had a teenaged black girl touch my hair....... WillowTree Jun 2015 #10
It's an award winning film, not a video. MADem Jun 2015 #22
OK WillowTree Jun 2015 #35
Once a black small child treestar Jun 2015 #86
As a white gay man, I once had a black boyfriend closeupready Jun 2015 #12
But those were his friends JI7 Jun 2015 #52
I'm sure it happens and it's WRONG. Sadly, however, I suspect this old man pnwmom Jun 2015 #15
That's what I thought too gaspee Jun 2015 #61
What about Rand Paul's? KamaAina Jun 2015 #19
With Rand you take the chance that it will bite you. bluesbassman Jun 2015 #65
Jessica Williams just mentioned this on the Daily Show Prism Jun 2015 #20
Red hair does seem to be an attractant. HubertHeaver Jun 2015 #63
In 1980 my mom and I went to China LibertyLover Jun 2015 #98
We lived in Japan when my son was a toddler. all american girl Jun 2015 #111
How bout: Dear People, don't touch other people without consent NightWatcher Jun 2015 #24
This. Even if you are Carrie Jean Prejean in a bikini, don't you DARE closeupready Jun 2015 #32
But it's not as much fun. It fails to satisfy. Smarmie Doofus Jun 2015 #39
+1 treestar Jun 2015 #85
Not surprising this still happens. Behind the Aegis Jun 2015 #26
I believe that this happens, but... Orrex Jun 2015 #27
"I'm sure that it's not a big deal to the jerk who's doing the grabbing." Behind the Aegis Jun 2015 #29
Good point Orrex Jun 2015 #30
Uh yeah...sure....whatever you say. ileus Jun 2015 #28
I am sorry get the red out Jun 2015 #31
Dear Black People, I have never done that and never would, nor do I know anyone else who has or whathehell Jun 2015 #33
Was the OP about you? I thought it was about the experiences of thousands of black women- silly me! bettyellen Jun 2015 #41
The OP was addressed to white people, so it's about them as well. whathehell Jun 2015 #68
Lol, if you think your individual denial is somehow relevant to the issue raised.... bettyellen Jun 2015 #69
LOL whathehell Jun 2015 #74
What baloney. Do you get upset at every PSA directed at humanity when it doesn't apply to you? bettyellen Jun 2015 #84
Well apparently there are some white people who do this treestar Jun 2015 #88
Um, betty? As the number and content of our posts makes clear, whathehell Jun 2015 #93
Instead of answering you offer a personal attack. bettyellen Jun 2015 #97
I have, you just don't like the answers whathehell Jun 2015 #114
"Get help" is demeaning bullshit, and coming from someone admittedly ignorant on the topic but oh so bettyellen Jun 2015 #118
Your OP was Alerted on - DURHAM D Jun 2015 #34
Bogus alert warning! Sissyk Jun 2015 #38
While people are clearly the only people that have ever done this. 99Forever Jun 2015 #36
Now, hold on there. I had a black girl touch and feel my hair.... Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #71
I agree but... Catherine Vincent Jun 2015 #40
I bet it's pretty damn annoying.... Inkfreak Jun 2015 #42
Oh my, I'm not one to grab a persons arm but I find tattoos pretty interesting! DawgHouse Jun 2015 #45
Nah, I'm not bothered by the why or questions about them. Inkfreak Jun 2015 #47
Oh man...haven't heard about this in a long time. Rex Jun 2015 #43
It is NOT cool and I've had it happen to me. DawgHouse Jun 2015 #44
I get this as a white guy with a shaved head. Codeine Jun 2015 #48
It's a known fact that unwanted rubbing of peoples' heads is a sign of socioapathy. Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #50
Fuck he's creepy Scootaloo Jun 2015 #83
LOL does he think he's a priest? treestar Jun 2015 #89
You nailed that !!!! orpupilofnature57 Jun 2015 #101
his nickname for Ari Fleischer was "bald jew" JI7 Jun 2015 #109
Captain Charm Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #110
Whenever I get my summer buzz cut, people rub my head. Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2015 #51
K & R.nt m-lekktor Jun 2015 #56
Good thing I'm already divorced. n/t ieoeja Jun 2015 #57
Dear White People who are in this thread you know who you are. Kalidurga Jun 2015 #58
White people arent used to being called out, period, let alone by a Black Woman randys1 Jun 2015 #80
Yeah I should carry smelling salts when I come in here. Kalidurga Jun 2015 #95
This is a manners thing. I have NEVER touched anyone's head without permission. JanMichael Jun 2015 #59
This does happen sometimes. romanic Jun 2015 #62
Darn it... Can I still randomly rub the bellies of pregnant women? MattBaggins Jun 2015 #66
Yes, and then you can rub your sore jaw ... JustABozoOnThisBus Jun 2015 #67
That's another weird one that's very common. bettyellen Jun 2015 #70
I was just going to post about this laundry_queen Jun 2015 #99
Here is what I find strange... greytdemocrat Jun 2015 #73
That is what bothers you about all this? randys1 Jun 2015 #77
It doesn't bother me greytdemocrat Jun 2015 #87
To show JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #106
Like the ' The Round Table ' at the Algonquin ?? orpupilofnature57 Jun 2015 #79
Yes, it is necessary... MrScorpio Jun 2015 #90
Don't JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #113
I would never even think of touching someone else's hair. polly7 Jun 2015 #75
No one has the right,,,,,,wait a minute I don't want to be banned. orpupilofnature57 Jun 2015 #76
and whatever you do hfojvt Jun 2015 #81
Does this really happen that often? NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #82
Ask any group of black women. I've heard about it all my life. bettyellen Jun 2015 #91
See bettyellen the mistake you made JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #116
It's an amazing thing to offer opinions when you really don't know. bettyellen Jun 2015 #117
Yes. Yes it does. Glassunion Jun 2015 #96
yes. it has happened to me Liberal_in_LA Jun 2015 #102
Yes - doesn't matter what you feel JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #112
I didn't say it wasn't inappropriate. NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #135
Skeptic - hmmm 'Kay JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #136
OK NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #137
Why would people do this? mythology Jun 2015 #92
Because - I've always gotten the impression JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #105
Also, green-eyed people should never, NEVER touch my pancreas DisgustipatedinCA Jun 2015 #100
Never fails to disappoint. Zenlitened Jun 2015 #103
I have a niece with platinum blond hair. She was born with it. Snobblevitch Jun 2015 #104
Maybe it was the first time JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #124
I still think it was about the hair. (Without information telling me otherwise.) Snobblevitch Jun 2015 #127
I think every tweet she wrote JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #107
"When you choose to be blind - that's your issue." Behind the Aegis Jun 2015 #119
Oh Cali, this is the least of our problems! akbacchus_BC Jun 2015 #108
"am from the Caribbean" BumRushDaShow Jun 2015 #122
No excuses, but it sounds like perhaps diminishing mental capacity was at play. ScreamingMeemie Jun 2015 #120
I used to touch my friend's afro in kindergarten. Marr Jun 2015 #121
This bit made me laugh...... Boudica the Lyoness Jun 2015 #126
Post removed Post removed Jun 2015 #128
Its battery if unwanted JonLP24 Jun 2015 #130
How many old white men have hair-related "add on" as part of their vocabulary? SMC22307 Jun 2015 #131
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