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In reply to the discussion: Misogynistic language.... [View all]qwlauren35
(6,150 posts)Inside Man when the Jodie Foster character was called that. She smiled and owned it. Because she had the man "by the balls" and all he could do was call her names.
So, I think men who use it are desperate. To hurt, to belittle. Because it is SO ugly. It's one of the few words that gets me punchy. I'm numb to ni**er. I hate it, but when my own people use it, I can't punch them. I want to SPANK them for being so immature. Because I see use of Ni**er as immaturity in not knowing its roots, and thinking that it can be turned around in an era where it still has the original derogatory meaning. So now we have some people using it for cameraderie, and others using it derogatorily, and then trying to sneak an excuse in that we use it, so why can't they. Argh.
But back to the c*** word. I am black and I am a woman. So I hate both words. Why do I hate one over the other? Maybe because I sense less hatred from white women, but I am wary of men. Men who would use the word C*** think so little of women, that I have to wonder if they would stoop to rape. And it is not as simple as nipping it in the bud. You cannot just return blow for blow because there is no corresponding word for men. There is no word that degrades men. They don't permit it.
So, c*** is a fighting word for me. I would slap a man who used it to my face if I could. He would be reported to HR in a work setting, and I might try to have him sued. Because a man who would use that word is probably a sexual predator, or at least one who routinely sexually harrasses women.
I sit here furious and sick.
Men, know, if you use that word, you have revealed yourself as despicable in my eyes and unworthy of respect.