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In reply to the discussion: Marriage tips from a rapist, on ABC [View all]Egnever
(21,506 posts)My issue here is in calling her a rapist and my feeling that it ignores the human part of the story. I certainly agree that under the law what she did is considered rape and should be. In this particular case there is clearly something more going on.
I don't see how the law could have or should have handled it any differently but in this particular case I think calling her a rapist at this point diminishes rape. After 6 years of no contact as an adult the first thing this young man did was work to make it possible for them to be together again. Then proceeded to get married and stay married for ten years now. Rape to me is not something that ends this way and if we are going to label any sex we don't agree with rape I think you take a lot of the appropriate revulsion to rape away.
Sort of like saying smoking pot will make you into a druggy it makes all the people who have tried pot stop taking you seriously.
This is a one in a million situation and certainly not one I would like to see repeated but calling her a rapist at this point I think misses the mark.