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In reply to the discussion: How to know that you hate women [View all]mindwalker_i
(4,407 posts)So you're argument as it stands is that you are a woman, a feminist, were in an abusive relationship, and therefore I should just accept what you say. Your version of father knows best?
Here's what that gets you. You have some experience, you've probably read a lot from other people and know, know their feelings, know how these relationships go in terms of what people say to control other people, how they act, and how know a lot of history. All that's great, but when it comes to making an argument, you need reasons and logic. Just saying "I know this stuff" isn't going to cut it.
Another factor is that, because you went through an abusive relationship, it's locked you into certain ways of thinking. It's like, if someone has always done something a certain way and knows that way really well, they will tend to see other things in the same way. If someone has solved a problem the same way many times, they'll always solve it the same way until somethings comes along and forces them to do it differently. Maybe the problem is too different to apply the same solution. If someone comes along with different experience, there's a good chance they'll have a different angle - a different way of thinking, or a different perspective.
Another aspect is that, if many people get together and talk, it's easy to form a homogenized view. We're on a political board, so a good example is that if Democrats all get together and talk about issues, the group will come to a consensus, to some extent at least. It's easy to then miss aspects that other people see. One reason I like Discussionist is that it exposes me to other perspectives. Some suck, not to put too fine a point on it. But some are interesting and cause me to modify my opinion or at least the reasoning that I have for my opinion. This is kind of part of evolution in that, when you mix stuff up, whether it's genes or ideas, the best will win or a new gene or idea that works better will win.
So in summary, experience is great and provides a good starting point for many discussions. But having experience doesn't absolve you from needing to make rational, logical arguments, and it doesn't override facts. It also doesn't provide an answer in the absence of facts. Given that our knowledge of Rice's history is severely limited, there's some room for possible explanations of his behavior, and your insistence that's it's purely hatred of women is unsubstantiated.