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In reply to the discussion: How to know that you hate women [View all]mindwalker_i
(4,407 posts)I have not read those books, but it would probably be highly beneficial to do so, so thank you for pointing them out. Now, from my admittedly less-than-informed point of view, I'm thinking that for thousands of years and maybe hundreds of thousands, society and survival depended on men being able to hunt food, fight off other tribes who were trying to take what one had, etc. In contrast, women had to take care of babies, keep them alive, and deal more with keeping the tribe working. There are physical reasons - like feeding babies - for why women didn't hunt. So developed the different roles and different feeling about women vs. men in society.
Things have changed. A lot. The old model isn't necessary, and it doesn't work. But changing these ideas that were developed over thousands of years isn't a fast process. So these ideas that women are "weak," unable to be the main breadwinners, or even moral ideas that women shouldn't be the breadwinners, are still parts of our cultures. Changing that is hard, and to some extent it's hard on the people forced to change.
I have a wife and two cats, and a very deep sense that I need to provide for them. A couple years ago, I quit the job that I'd had for more than a decade because it was driving me crazy, and things are definitely better now. And I had another job within two months, so that went fairly well. However, in those two months, it was hard to deal with not providing for my family. I can see how those feeling could manifest in different ways in different people. For some, I could see how, at a deep level, they might feel like they're inadequate and can't provide for their families, and how that could come out as them being violent.
Understand that I'm not condoning it or making excuses for it, I'm just understanding how it could happen. When it does, those guys need to have their asses kicked hard, and we need to make it clear that violence is not ok. That two-game suspension was a farce, and fortunately has been replaced by something better.