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In reply to the discussion: How to know that you hate women [View all]mindwalker_i
(4,407 posts)and say, how can anyone here know his psychology well enough to determine that it is hate? If there were any history of him doing mean things to women, other than this one instance, we could make a more informed theory. With there only being this one instance, we don't have enough information to determine which of several possible explanations is correct.
My own personal feeling is that this guy has been taught by society that football players are, in some sense, better than other people. They earn a lot of money, they have crowds cheering for them, people pay attention to their lives. My experience as a geek who got his ass kicked a lot when I was younger is that people who are looked up to - because they're "popular," or are football players or of other sports, or whatever - get really angry when anyone "disrespects" them and react violently. That's not hatred. If it were, there would be very little anyone can do about it. However, if it's not hatred but instead is a feeling that they can be violent toward other people, we can deal with that. We can teach bullies that, first, they aren't better than other people, and we can teach them that violence is not ok.
So calling them "haters," in some sense absolves us from the responsibility of taking action. It's our easy way out.