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Showing Original Post only (View all)How to know that you hate women [View all]
Heres a sure-fire way to know that you hate women: when an incident of intimate partner violence in which a man knocks a woman unconscious gains national attention and every question or comment you think to make has to do with her behavior, you really hate women. Like, despise.
There is no other explanation. There is no I need all the facts. There is no excuse. You hate women. Own it.
Now, you probably dont believe you hate women. You probably honestly think youre being an objective observer whose only interest is the truth. You are delusional.
We have this problem in our discourse around the most important challenges we face where we feel we have to be fair to both sides. But sometimes, one of those sides is subjugation and oppression. If youre OK with legitimizing that side in the interest of fairness, youre essentially saying youre OK with oppression as a part of the human condition. Thats some hateful shit.
Violence against women doesnt deserve a fair hearing. There should be no justifications offered, no rationalizing, no equivocating. Violence against women should be intolerable. But every time we are called upon to collectively denounce that violence, theres a section of the choir that starts singing from a different set of sheet music.
Well, I dont believe he should have hit her, but she also shouldnt have
Hitting women is wrong, but if youre going to step to a man like a man
She has a responsibility to her family
She stayed with him, so obviously shes condoning that behavior
Its none of our business what happens between
What did she expect?
Hate. Its all hate. Because if you can look at the history of women being beaten and battered into silence and second-class citizenship, and still ask if they are at all to blame for the violence visited upon them, theres nothing else to call that.
There is no other explanation. There is no I need all the facts. There is no excuse. You hate women. Own it.
Now, you probably dont believe you hate women. You probably honestly think youre being an objective observer whose only interest is the truth. You are delusional.
We have this problem in our discourse around the most important challenges we face where we feel we have to be fair to both sides. But sometimes, one of those sides is subjugation and oppression. If youre OK with legitimizing that side in the interest of fairness, youre essentially saying youre OK with oppression as a part of the human condition. Thats some hateful shit.
Violence against women doesnt deserve a fair hearing. There should be no justifications offered, no rationalizing, no equivocating. Violence against women should be intolerable. But every time we are called upon to collectively denounce that violence, theres a section of the choir that starts singing from a different set of sheet music.
Well, I dont believe he should have hit her, but she also shouldnt have
Hitting women is wrong, but if youre going to step to a man like a man
She has a responsibility to her family
She stayed with him, so obviously shes condoning that behavior
Its none of our business what happens between
What did she expect?
Hate. Its all hate. Because if you can look at the history of women being beaten and battered into silence and second-class citizenship, and still ask if they are at all to blame for the violence visited upon them, theres nothing else to call that.
http://feministing.com/2014/09/11/how-to-know-that-you-hate-women/
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If he only shot one woman....would you ask if this was "a regular part of his life"?
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#39
it was just pointing out the irony of that statement....please read the new text I added to
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#42
"he just doesn't think much of her "- I actually disagree with this point... here's why:
Veilex
Sep 2014
#119
to someone who HAS walked several miles in the shoes of an abused woman....
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#152
It should have become very clear that I know what I am talking about....
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#165
I have them because I was married to a man JUST like this for 16 yrs.....and I
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#168
"you are ignoring a systemic problem of hatred" - I realy dont think Mindwalker is
Veilex
Sep 2014
#122
I don't give a fuck why my ex husband hates women.....it doesn't matter
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#130
What you're describing... Refusing to call it "hatred" is the worst kind of hair-splitting IMO.
nomorenomore08
Sep 2014
#78
We can at least show them that venting that hatred on another human being is totally unacceptable.
nomorenomore08
Sep 2014
#141
If nothing else, how can you know a stranger's psychology well enough to say who he does
nomorenomore08
Sep 2014
#76
Just putting a point on a "bingo card" doesn't actually address it. [nt]
Jester Messiah
Sep 2014
#36
A man should never, ever, hit a woman, but should they all be punished the same?
Dustlawyer
Sep 2014
#41
OMG....AGAIN with this shit....HOW is it always always always men around to make sure to remind
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#52
Really! My post is on topic, you just don't like what I had to say. My main point is,
Dustlawyer
Sep 2014
#74
I thought it was pretty clear we were talking about beatings, not self-defense.
nomorenomore08
Sep 2014
#85
He is trying to defend Male Priviledge! The privilege to STILL believe women are beneath you
VanillaRhapsody
Sep 2014
#45
Hmm, let me think, ummmmmm..............yep, hate is the correct word to describe violent males'
Dont call me Shirley
Sep 2014
#118
Excellent piece by a brilliant young man who sees the context. We need leaders like these!
freshwest
Sep 2014
#13
Yes, you have expressed the progressive view. The other way is not progressive. Thanks for clarity.
freshwest
Sep 2014
#49
Sort of like sexual assault, in a way. People don't want to believe it can happen to them or
nomorenomore08
Sep 2014
#86
I agree, but hitting a woman is especially vile, as men are physically stronger.
chrisa
Sep 2014
#89
even there, i would say the emphasis on the gender distinction does more harm than good.
unblock
Sep 2014
#93
The issue is innate physical differences that are sex-specific. The two cannot be separated.
chrisa
Sep 2014
#143
The dynamics of these relationship situations (power, oppression, violence) ...
CaptainTruth
Sep 2014
#90
If violence against women is intolerable, what does that imply about violence against men?
Threedifferentones
Sep 2014
#91