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In reply to the discussion: The chilling effect of misogynistic trolls [View all]treestar
(82,383 posts)and a good thing. But it's natural in a patriarchal society for men to naturally start trying to help women and suggest better ways to do things. Perhaps we are all like this. When on the privileged side, that's the time to be careful. I hope I learned, from DU, not to tell black people how best to handle things and be the one who is careful. That's where you are here. When on the privileged side, tolerate some discomfort. Let that other side do the talking - that's where the problem lies in the first place - they don't get listened to as well. And are attacked for the way they say things (angry black person, shrill woman, etc.).
The hardest thing for white men might be to see this, without having at least some experience being the underdog (though that is possible in some context, so I'm not claiming it can't be done - or that it can't be done without having the experience - we can put ourselves in another's shoes with enough imagination).