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alarimer

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16. I think that's a good guide.

Reply to LanternWaste (Reply #11)

Wed Jul 30, 2014, 05:23 PM

Jul 2014

Assume "no" unless there is an affirmative "yes."

I think people need to get used to asking point-blank, as well.

When most people are in relationships, they seem to have no trouble asking the question. It happens in my relationship all the time. We ask. Sometimes someone says no. No problem.

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Our default setting is not 'yes'. [View all] redqueen Jul 2014 OP

You make a good point ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #1

Interesting that in this kind of interaction, it isn't often viewed that way, no? nt redqueen Jul 2014 #3

Another breath of commonsense from redqueen! Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #2

When you say it that way it seems so logical. el_bryanto Jul 2014 #4

Perhaps it's one of the problems with compulsory education. Trillo Jul 2014 #5

One doesn't need to be a body language 'expert' redqueen Jul 2014 #6

Common sense will do just fine... LanternWaste Jul 2014 #11

I think that's a good guide. alarimer Jul 2014 #16

Lame salib Jul 2014 #12

ITA. However, you are assuming that "someone" actually gives a @#$% about the partner's feelings.nt raccoon Jul 2014 #7

Sadly true. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #8

I think that some men think that society expects them to "take the lead". This needs to be changed. rhett o rick Jul 2014 #9

I think you said it quite well BainsBane Jul 2014 #10

I do not think a real answer is not to "take the lead". salib Jul 2014 #14

So true ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #17

Many of them probably thought it was 'romantic'. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #19

Sure, but look at some other "signatures" in that article. Trillo Jul 2014 #21

In fact, the default is No. Iggo Jul 2014 #13

Sadly no, some don't. redqueen Jul 2014 #18

He knows it, too. Iggo Jul 2014 #20

That redqueen Jul 2014 #22

truth. n/t PowerToThePeople Jul 2014 #15