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freshwest

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24. 'the shame of sex abuse should be put back on the shoulders of the perpetrators' YES!

Mon Jun 23, 2014, 09:29 PM

Jun 2014

Notice his buddies were into the whole thing too. Like a pack of dogs first step as a bunch of gang rapists.

From the link:

Upon exiting the train, the perpetrator was immediately arrested by transit police. He was later convicted and is now a registered sex offender for life. And he was deported, too.

A video of my confrontation with the sicko was posted to YouTube by an anonymous bystander. It immediately went viral and has now been seen by almost 2 million people all over the world.

I had no idea that someone on that train was taking video of the incident until a couple of months later. It was a strange thing for me to see this image of myself being outed as a crime victim, and being shown verbally but aggressively defending myself...

This is a good use of social media.

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woman confronts man on train with penis exposed, confrontation goes viral [View all] Liberal_in_LA Jun 2014 OP

I love what she did and her message. The shame belongs on the perp, not the victim. PeaceNikki Jun 2014 #1

I hope she told the cops, "It looked just like a penis ... only smaller" ... 11 Bravo Jun 2014 #74

Good for her and.... zappaman Jun 2014 #2

Once you whip it out there isn't really anywhere else to go NightWatcher Jun 2014 #3

It's usually a disappointment. nt Xipe Totec Jun 2014 #6

Ya...what da fuq? Cali_Democrat Jun 2014 #18

Good for her!!! LiberalElite Jun 2014 #4

This guy should be in jail for the next 50 years Michigander_Life Jun 2014 #5

not sure exposers are rapists noiretextatique Jun 2014 #23

He wasn't just a flasher Michigander_Life Jun 2014 #27

ugh...thanks for that info noiretextatique Jun 2014 #29

At least he was nice enough to wear a condom. uppityperson Jun 2014 #7

Awesome Lady madokie Jun 2014 #8

The guy's defense will be... Hubert Flottz Jun 2014 #67

if it was me, he would be minus a penis Skittles Jun 2014 #9

Hell yeah. Castrate the perv. Aristus Jun 2014 #47

And have had a chunk kicked out of his sorry backside! Hubert Flottz Jun 2014 #69

Good for her! Texasgal Jun 2014 #10

love it. I spit on the asshole who did that to me, and boy it wiped the smile off of his face. bettyellen Jun 2014 #11

on a crowded train in rome, some asshole grabbed my ass noiretextatique Jun 2014 #30

I experienced something similar. A random guy slapped my butt ecstatic Jun 2014 #44

I was in shock too- because we were alone on the train, and he was beating off. unfortunately that bettyellen Jun 2014 #48

what kind of idiot does that? noiretextatique Jun 2014 #60

If there was a cop around, you should not spit. DireStrike Jun 2014 #40

If there were any cops around, I would have had him arrested. It was nothing I intended to do- he bettyellen Jun 2014 #49

Good for her! enlightenment Jun 2014 #12

good for you! noiretextatique Jun 2014 #25

Love It! grilled onions Jun 2014 #38

LOL! Nice move! smirkymonkey Jun 2014 #82

GOOD FOR HER! LeftyMom Jun 2014 #13

Amateurs... TreasonousBastard Jun 2014 #14

Wonderful response! This is what women have to do -- anger, humor, whatever. LuckyLib Jun 2014 #22

I couldn't help laughing at the phrasing of your opening sentence-- tblue37 Jun 2014 #39

Good for them. 840high Jun 2014 #43

those are my kind of gals Skittles Jun 2014 #52

Yeah, she should have laughed off her assault like a pro- right? because there's no difference bettyellen Jun 2014 #56

Thanks. This kind of minimizing bullshit needs to be called out. nt redqueen Jun 2014 #68

I get that Skittles is cool and tough- but pervs gonna perv until you stop them bettyellen Jun 2014 #81

You're exactly right of course. They need to be arrested, not left to assault others. redqueen Jun 2014 #83

It struck me when I read the bus story below- it felt like a win because he was tossed off the bus? bettyellen Jun 2014 #86

Since patriarchy. redqueen Jun 2014 #89

i use to have to tell myself, not so much today. i have always been aggressive. vocal. seabeyond Jun 2014 #87

and the truth is, we always do the mental calculus- are they going to be pissed at me instead? bettyellen Jun 2014 #90

Yes, exactly. And more than that, just laughing or reacting 'the right way' personally enables him. redqueen Jun 2014 #92

yes. hence, me being so aggressively vocal. lmFUGGIN"ao. seabeyond Jun 2014 #93

and honestly- if older women just laugh and shame him, he will probably seek out easier victims bettyellen Jun 2014 #97

+1000 smirkymonkey Jun 2014 #85

Hmmm. That is not what I took away from that. joeglow3 Jun 2014 #94

he called that brave woman an amateur, and lauded the lazy women who pointed and laughed instead.... bettyellen Jun 2014 #96

something else the woman faced in that car. closed in. a group. not knowing what side they seabeyond Jun 2014 #98

I would bet the average NYC rush hour crowd is going to be supportive because a few will be- bettyellen Jun 2014 #99

ya. you do not know. you hope. but... you do not know. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #101

That headline sounds like the train had its penis exposed. nt Bonobo Jun 2014 #15

I was just ready to say that. Curmudgeoness Jun 2014 #16

You would think professional writers would know that. nt Bonobo Jun 2014 #17

It's always a great day when I can refer to The Wire.... msanthrope Jun 2014 #73

Journalistic standards continue to fall... nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #41

Women, train or man, in any case with the penis exposed, there is still no room for error! nolabels Jun 2014 #45

trains...tunnels MindPilot Jun 2014 #66

Actually, it reads like she confronted a man, on a train, with HER penis exposed. silvershadow Jun 2014 #75

You go girl! Sissyk Jun 2014 #19

That's how to ''stand your ground.'' DeSwiss Jun 2014 #20

and did it without a gun noiretextatique Jun 2014 #26

Oh..... BronxBoy Jun 2014 #21

'the shame of sex abuse should be put back on the shoulders of the perpetrators' YES! freshwest Jun 2014 #24

excellent response noiretextatique Jun 2014 #28

More sickos in the comments. Don't read my post if offended. MillennialDem Jun 2014 #31

people are so brave with anonynmity noiretextatique Jun 2014 #34

4 years ago? wow! i remember when this video first came out! nt alp227 Jun 2014 #32

WTF is the condom for? Is that some kind of legal loophole? arcane1 Jun 2014 #33

he was trying to rub against her noiretextatique Jun 2014 #35

As soon as I clicked "post" I knew I'd be sorry I asked. arcane1 Jun 2014 #36

LOL noiretextatique Jun 2014 #37

and maybe make sure he doesn't leave DNA. bettyellen Jun 2014 #57

ICK! xfundy Jun 2014 #42

Extremely messed up. davidthegnome Jun 2014 #46

I think I know at least 8-9 women who have been through similar on the NYC subways. bettyellen Jun 2014 #50

Hmm. davidthegnome Jun 2014 #51

The subway thing can be a crime of opportunity- it is so crowded and people are crushed together w bettyellen Jun 2014 #55

Many years ago I rode the NYC subway homegirl Jun 2014 #65

Bravo! Nice work! smirkymonkey Jun 2014 #84

I read this as "penis explodes" LittleBlue Jun 2014 #53

This happened to me when I was younger riding the bus to work downtown kimbutgar Jun 2014 #54

Wow, so the bus driver knew he was a repeat offender and made no move to get him arrested? Fucked up bettyellen Jun 2014 #58

years ago - bus driver suddenly calls guy up to front, stops bus, tells him to get off Liberal_in_LA Jun 2014 #95

I could never comprehend that. davidthegnome Jun 2014 #59

This is a few years old, but K&R anyway. nt Jamaal510 Jun 2014 #61

Hot Damn! Good for her! She's my Hero for today! :) nt Javaman Jun 2014 #62

I just wonder what goes through the minds of sickos like this creep that tells them that this is catbyte Jun 2014 #63

Here in my car, I feel safest of all, I can lock all my doors... Sen. Walter Sobchak Jun 2014 #64

Nice Gary Numan reference... Cal Carpenter Jun 2014 #88

I don't think it's her fault... Sen. Walter Sobchak Jun 2014 #102

Who knows how many times.... Helen Borg Jun 2014 #70

Probably not Rosa Luxemburg Jun 2014 #72

Good for her. I have zero tolerance for nonsense of any kind on the subway anymore... stevenleser Jun 2014 #71

If he was arrested... Oldtimeralso Jun 2014 #76

.... Louisiana1976 Jun 2014 #77

Pretty poor subject line though.....let's think about it... George II Jun 2014 #78

Good for her and I had a similar experience on a Mpls bus stop azurnoir Jun 2014 #79

You go Ginger! Baitball Blogger Jun 2014 #80

Misandry! Orrex Jun 2014 #91

The amazing thing is, even after she confronts him, the guy STILL has his fly open! Ken Burch Jun 2014 #100