My daughters 1st dress....

[SheilaT]

14. I get it. I get what you are saying.

You are not suggesting in any way that your "tragedy" outweighs the larger one.
But you are giving voice to the fact that such things have ripple effects almost no one ever thinks about. And those ripple effects matter. Not in the same way the deaths or injuries do, but they still matter.

I do hope they hold the graduation soon. The kids should not be deprived of that. If it doesn't happen, do have a family event, your daughter wears the dress and sweater, and you take many, many photographs.