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In reply to the discussion: "We raise girls to cater to the fragile egos of men." [View all]laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)I got that too...being guys don't like smart girls (also high IQ reading at 3 here too) but also being told guys don't like airheads. Or, being told guys don't like women who out earn them, but also guys don't like a girl who doesn't pull her own weight. Or being told I could be ANYTHING I wanted to be - ooops, except we won't pay for you to do THAT because you're a girl and you don't have a future in THAT...(THAT being hockey player, computer programmer and air traffic controller)
And on and on.
I also married someone whose mother did everything for him. I do mean everything. I should've clued in when we were dating and it was his turn to clean the apartment (him and his roommate had a schedule) and he made his mom do it on her visit. He 'saved up' all the dishes and laundry just for her! omg. Later on, when we had our first baby, I was overwhelmed with everything and he complained I wasn't doing his laundry quickly enough. So I decided to not do it at all...I told him he was an adult, he was perfectly capable of throwing in a load (I was so sleep deprived and stressed at the time, and he never helped out at all with the baby). He didn't...he wore his clothes over and over again and then when he went to visit he brought a suitcase full of dirty work clothes for his mother to wash. He was an only child so that probably also played into his learned helplessness. We aren't married anymore.